NoFuxGiven Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Even tho I was the one that broke up with him and told him to "leave me alone forever" I don't think i meant it!! I miss him so much and NC is HARD AS HELL. I haven't seen him in almost 2 weeks. We did exchange a few not-so-nice messages via email 9 days ago and i haven't heard from him since then. I'm starting to second guess my decision to breakup and i wanna reach out. I know he is refusing to apologize because he is thinking just because he didn't do anything physically that he didn't do anything wrong. I still feel that he cheated on me emotionally and i feel disrespected and betrayed. I don't want to be the one to give in and contact him first but I'm lonely and bored and I need advice before I go and make a fool outta myself.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Read this: "Well it all finally came to the light and I wasn't even looking for anything this time. Last night i went online to pay my cell bill and it was a bit higher than usual so i looked at the detailed bill to see why (i forgot about some apps i bought). While i was casually scrolling i glanced over the call records and i noticed a familiar number under his number and the minutes were very high and it was like at 3,4,5 in the morning. Well he has been acting very weird lately...very distant. My heart started beating so fast and my hands started to shake because i really couldn't believe what i was seeing. My biggest fear this whole time has been for him to leave me or cheat on me while im pregnant and now this is happening. I texted him instantly that it was over and called him a liar and i basically told him never to contact me again at all for any reason. Then i suspended his phone service. I also texted the chick he has been talking to and asked her about them but she hasn't replied. I looked at her facebook and i found out that she's pregnant too. I cant help but wonder if its by him or what. I cant believe that he did this to me. We spend so much time together that i dont even see where he had the time to talk to this chick for 3 hours at a time. I'm devastated and confused. He hasnt even tried to call and explain himself. I guess it really wouldnt matter anyways. How do you explain 3-4 hour convos at 4am?? I dont know if they have been hooking up physically or not but I knew my intuition wasnt wrong and it came to me when i wasnt even looking for it. Now that i know he has been talking to someone else how should i proceed? I need all the advice and support i can get right now. PLEASE HELP!!" You wrote this. go get some counseling. If not for you, for the baby you're carrying.
todreaminblue Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I don't want to be the one to give in and contact him first but I'm lonely and bored and I need advice before I go and make a fool outta myself. if you are bored and lonely it isnt a reason to reach out the fact you look at it like giving in ......it isnt giving in to break no contact...its missing someone so much you take a risk just so you know how they are, how they feel, how their day was.....or send them well wishes just to let them know you care.....and when you find out that that care is not returned and in fact resented.......you are no better off for contacting........other than to learn they want no contact with you......i wish you the best...and hope whatever you do .....is right for you..deb
Author NoFuxGiven Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 forgetmenot I am in counseling but it isn't helping all that much.We have messaged since i wrote that post and he says that she's just a friend,she has a boyfriend (that she's also pregnant by) and he was talking to her to get advice on OUR relationship and to get another womans perspective on the **** i put him thru. He swears up and down that he hasnt slept with her and she says the same thing (she messaged me back). I just cant get over the length of the conversation OR the time that it happened. We havent really discussed the issue in person. Now that I have calmed down and thought about things I want to talk to him about it but i have no idea how he will respond. I know im all over the place with this but a part of me still wants to be with him but another part of me wants to just let go and move on. WHere is BARKY?? or SImonPhoenix?? I absolutely love their advice.
Author NoFuxGiven Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 TODREAMINBLUE Thank u for your reply. I think I'm going to remain NC. Sometimes I just need to vent or get someone elses point of view. I believe LS has already formed an opinion that I am a super psychotic bitch and beyond the help of forum advice because it seems like the only reply i get is to see a therapist or get counseling. Sometimes the kind words of complete strangers is enough to calm anxiety and get one through a day of NC.
todreaminblue Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 TODREAMINBLUE Thank u for your reply. I think I'm going to remain NC. Sometimes I just need to vent or get someone elses point of view. I believe LS has already formed an opinion that I am a super psychotic bitch and beyond the help of forum advice because it seems like the only reply i get is to see a therapist or get counseling. Sometimes the kind words of complete strangers is enough to calm anxiety and get one through a day of NC. you are welcome, i believe that too about kindness...its not a popular concept unfortunately.....its a dreamers foolish thought, i haven't read any of your posts and i wouldnt judge you anyway who am i to judge, it i will get easier for you, cant tell you when and i hope that if i am not around the board, that you do get that kindness from another poster....and have the opportunity to pass that kindness on..........hugs from me to you.....deb
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