dahhlin Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 It's always that second you completely forget about your ex...where you spent days, maybe weeks without thinking a single thought about them..that the f***er decides to creep right back in. And my natural curiosity and over-analyticalness kicks right in and now I'm plagued by the ex text. It's been 6months since I last spoke to my ex and I almost knew this was coming. I know my ex has a strict no contact for 6 months rule and ironically that 6 months would expire right around my birthday this past weekend. And like clockwork, last night I get a text that goes a little something like this... "Happy belated birthday baby. I'm sorry for all the bull**** throughout the years. Not a day goes by where I don't think about you. Hoping life is going great for you" (A happy birthday would've been fine..but the rest... geez) My response. "Thanks, hope you're doing well too." He sent me a smiley face and that was that. Its really remarkable how something so stupid can send your whole life into a tailspin. Why!?!? Why did he feel the need to do that? And why am I so stupid that I can't keep myself from obsessing over it. I'm kinda curious, how is he doing, could we have a cup of coffee and be cordial? Was he trying to get laid? Was he waiting to see if I'd say "I miss you," "I think about you," and when I didn't he backed off. I want to bash my phone and my head into a wall... Can't we put our exes on an island where they'll never be heard from again.
DresdenKing Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Can't we put our exes on an island where they'll never be heard from again. Ha, I like that idea. Like the Bermuda Triangle or something. People are fundamentally selfish, remember that. Not talking to you for 6 months and then sending a message like that is a mind game that accomplishes nothing but give him an ego-boost. Sometimes the dumper reaches out because it's their way of still feeling important to that person. A string to hold onto. The vali-dating game. If you had ignored the text, it would kill HIM inside knowing you don't care anymore and you would then hold the power. But alas... you just reminded him he still has it. 1
forgetmenot75 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Omg that was truly moving. Gezz I'm with you, why did he write that he remembers you each day... Anyway, most important thing here is you did right, don't reply anymore to him, UNLESS he beggs you to come back with him, which was not the case. Take his message as a breadcrumb and continue with your life. 1
NewPerspective93 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Breadcrumb. Don't take any of the possible motives behind their actions to heart, but with a grain of salt. We've all had to deal with these messages. If you still get into that tailspin at this point, don't reply and just live your life. Focus on yourself and do you. Cheers. 2
barky2 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Lol once again, and I'll say it again, once you truly stop pining for them they have a 15th sense and they know about it. And ull hear from them. Don't respond please Barky 2
candie13 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 he's testing the waters. some men, isn't it? well, at least he wrote a nice text, dahhlin. Today I got this from my ex "." Yeah, same to you too. Some men gotta have the last word
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