Esp0125 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I am rather new to this to any help is greatly appreciated... Ok so I met this girl about 4 months ago... She is amazing we get along great and we recently told each other that we love each other, which is rare for me to move this quickly. I am 33 she is 31 now here is the back story she lost her mother suddenly about 6 months prior to us meeting so it is very hard to get out of her shell.. The relationship has been going great, she was sending me those cute texts through out the day telling me she loves me randomly, it really made me smile. She kept saying how it is not like her to do that because she NEVER talks about feelings. I met most of her friends who I have become close and they all tell us that we are going to get married one day. Ok here is where I need advice in the worst way. I am 100% an over thinker which I don't show to her because lets face it I know women hate that. I was married for 4 years and got divorced 3 years ago she cheated so it is what it is... I was never an over thinker before that so I am sure that is where it came from. Little history about the woman I am with.... Her mother passed suddenly 10 months ago. She said it has changed the way she looks at life, before that she wanted to get married the whole 9. She recently told me the reason why that scares her. She sees her dad and she doesn't want to be alone the way he is.... We have gone away for long weekends and when we got back she sent me the nicest text messages telling me she wanted to thank all the BOYS who came into and walked out of her life in the past because she met the man of her dreams. She even told me she told her father that i will prob be his future son in law. I love getting these messages it makes me so happy, but then a couple of days later she will be sad... understandibly thinking about her mother and I am always there for her. You can tell she is a little off so I say what is the matter she says she doesn't wanna be like her dad. I say what about the texts we are so happy together, she says I say what I mean and feel in the texts but ever since her mom she says it always ends up bad and she take a few steps back and gets nervous. Here is my thing I know she loves me I now always worry that she is gonna leave the relationship, I am sure there is nothing wrong but I over think and Its driving me crazy. I guess I need an outside opinion. Should I even worry???? I dont have a problem getting woman thank god but the reason why I think I am so over worrying is because although I have had flings, girlfriends, and other things since my ex wife this is the first girl I have fell in love with since. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Faith13/2 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I would just take it slow, be there for her when she seems down as you say you have been. Try being open with her and tell her how you're feeling, and then go from there. If you love her as you say you do and her v.v I think it'll all fall into place for itself. As for the over thinking I think it's normal after what you've gone through, but this situation is different, and so is this woman. Focus on this and leave the past where it belongs, good luck.
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