Should I delete my ex bf off of facebook?

[elizabeth21]

We broke up in April after dating over a year. Even tho I wasn't so happy in the relationship I still kind of wanted to be together and make it work. So he initiated what was best for us. He said he wasn't ready for a relationship and wouldn't one until college at least. We were each other's first bf/gf and I fell for a boy who wasn't bf material yet. I'm 18 and he's 17.

 

He changed and turned into a jerk to me after we broke up. He now likes my friend (or used to be friend. She's now an acquaintance really who I try to tolerate) I think and when I'm on facebook they're both online and obviously talking. It annoys me when I see them sit together in church when he did that with me but stopped after 8 months since he got lazy and sat outside watching it on a tv. And he would always be too tired to talk to me but he's not for this girl. I want to delete him but I want him to see that I'm just fine without him. I know it's bad but I want him to feel bad he's not having fun with me anymore. We've been friends on facebook for awhile before we dated so I'd feel weird breaking that. I know I deserve a real man and not some boy who could only give me one day a week and could barely talk to me. He treated me pretty poorly and I should've ended it awhile ago but I liked him too much. He didn't deserve my constant effort. He did nothing for me. Not even on our 1 year. He did care for me at one point but he got too busy for me and things changed.

 

Should I delete him? Or is that too immature? His dad (the pastor of my church) deleted me...idk if that was on accident or one of kids did it but I thought that was immature of him. His family is bitter towards me and his sister who used to be my best friend took advantage of our friendship and now "hates" me cause I talk to a boy she liked. Idk why I let myself get taken advantage of like this. I just like making people happy/like me. :/

 

But I don't want to ruin any chances of being friends in the future. Like we were kinda good friends before we dated so idk if I should delete him. He used to be a big part of my life and it's weird he isn't anymore. It's so weird looking at him and thinking how close we used to be...

[reddragon588]

Without reading the whole post, yes.

 

It will help you 100%. The best I've felt post-breakup was the day I deleted my ex on Facebook.

 

It won't ruin your chances of getting back together. If that chance exists at all, this is not something that would affect it.

[joe86]

I removed my ex at the weekend. She split with me, and I expected her to remove me. The way I see it is that it should be up to them to make the effort to stay friends.

 

I have since also deactivated my FB account. I feel it can easily take high priority in life (perhaps because of how useful it was at organising my social life at uni) and while I'm trying to take time to myself & find what I want, simplifying life is important. Nearly a week off there & I don't feel like I'm missing anything but I do feel better in myself.

[LME]

yeah i defriended my ex about a month after our breakup. i didnt do it to be like petty or something but more or less so i would not be tempted to creep on him when feeling lonely/missing him and it helped a ton.