mandm7872 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I suspect my wife cheated one night with a man much larger than myself. I had sex with her only 2-7 hrs. later than when it would've happened. I have no solid proof of this. My nagging question is that after 17yrs. I know how it feels when we start to have sex. I noticed that she felt "different" at first that night. A bit looser. I gave it little thought. After finding out a few things that may or may not mean anything this keeps sticking out in my mind as a possible reason. So, do women's vaginas stay noticeably stretched for a fair amount of time after sex with someone larger than her regular partner??
salparadise Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 No, it's just too subjective and many variable to draw any conclusions.
Tulsy Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 In your case, I don't know, maybe? I mean, you wife is a serial cheater and you guys have involved other people in the past....what's to stop her from continuing to cheat on you? Nothing. It's probably the guy from you first post, who gets together with your wife when you aren't around and shows her his huge rod.
nescafe1982 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Now, I'm not going to weigh in on the issue of infidelity without more evidence. But I will weigh in on the anatomy aspect here. A woman's tightness depends on many factors other than who she's had sex with or when. For example: 1) time of the month and hormonal levels 2) position of cervix (related to time of month) 3) level of arousal 4) whether she's hydrated 5) whether she's stressed, tired, etc (somatic arousal is contingent not only on desire but also on physical stressors). 6) What about masturbation? Even if she was penetrated, it could have been solo-sex or even a gyno visit.. Do you have other reasons for your suspicions, OP? Because the physicality of it doesn't lead me to believe "other man." 1
Author mandm7872 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 I originally figured it may just be that she had fun with a toy earlier. After knowing the possibility existed she may have had another man I keep thinking about this otherwise fleeting reaction. 16 yrs of sex with her. I know what "normal" feels like. I just wonder how long does it take for a woman to return back. I'm fairly certain it's not immediate by any means. Is there any studies or data about such a thing?
lukas Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I suspect my wife cheated one night with a man much larger than myself. I had sex with her only 2-7 hrs. later than when it would've happened. I have no solid proof of this. My nagging question is that after 17yrs. I know how it feels when we start to have sex. I noticed that she felt "different" at first that night. A bit looser. I gave it little thought. After finding out a few things that may or may not mean anything this keeps sticking out in my mind as a possible reason. So, do women's vaginas stay noticeably stretched for a fair amount of time after sex with someone larger than her regular partner?? I don't think that would make it noticeably stretched, but I do know that there is a certain window that it won't feel the same when you are putting it in. You know how if you just had sex within the last hour or so when you start it feels a bit looser the 2nd time around than it did the first? I have my suspicions with an ex of mine feeling like she had just had sex, despite having only just arrived at my house after a ball. I'll never know the truth on that one, but I am free to suspect.
Author mandm7872 Posted September 17, 2013 Author Posted September 17, 2013 I do know that there is a certain window that it won't feel the same when you are putting it in. You know how if you just had sex within the last hour or so when you start it feels a bit looser the 2nd time around than it did the first? That's exactly it. Without getting into details, that is why I noticed the difference right away.
lukas Posted September 19, 2013 Posted September 19, 2013 That's exactly it. Without getting into details, that is why I noticed the difference right away. I don't think that is a good sign and I would assume the worst. The male friends I brought this up to knew where I was coming from in my case. There could be other reasons though, maybe she was MUCH more turned on or something? Or had just used a dildo or vibrator? I would look for more evidence elsewhere to see if she is having affairs or looking for them.
sayyes19 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I don't think that is a good sign and I would assume the worst. The male friends I brought this up to knew where I was coming from in my case. There could be other reasons though, maybe she was MUCH more turned on or something? Or had just used a dildo or vibrator? I would look for more evidence elsewhere to see if she is having affairs or looking for them. I had sex with my fiance the other day after having spent the last 3 days with her. She was much looser than usual. I have no idea why, but it's usually an adventure getting in there and all of the sudden it was super easy without having sex the last few days. I have no idea why, but she wasn't cheating on me (I know first hand). Women's anatomy is not logical.
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 what nescafe said is true.......it also depends on activity levels.........deb
Darren Steez Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Dear lord based on nothing OP must assume the worst? Maybe it felt "looser" because you were a little smaller, less aroused. Who knows?
TaraMaiden Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 The more aroused I am, the looser and more moist I get. The vagina is probably the most elastic organ there is, and is flexible and extremely pliable. When I had my first child (57cm long, 51cm around the head) I was back to normal size and tight as ever, after 3 days.
Author mandm7872 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Dear lord based on nothing OP must assume the worst? Maybe it felt "looser" because you were a little smaller, less aroused. Who knows? It is based on how it felt first penetrating her at normal arousal. I had no reason to think much of it and didn't at the time. Only after knowledge of earlier events that evening that this has come to make me wonder more about it's possible implications.
nescafe1982 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Only after knowledge of earlier events that evening that this has come to make me wonder more about it's possible implications. Without more details about what else made you think more of her physical "size," I'm not sure any of the answers you'll get her will satisfy. What else made you think about infidelity?
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