cmoonl7 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 (edited) My gf of 15 months and I broke up 3 weeks ago after a fight. Here was the last text from her before I went no contact: “I forgive you......hope you can forgive me too.....i know im barbed wire wrapped around a brick wall.......anyway, thanks for the ride....good and bad i hope....good luck...” It’s been 2 weeks of NC and a friend saw her ad on a personal site. No big deal, BUT post: “one night stand - w4m (otis orchards) Must send pic or I will not reply. Looking for a one night stand emotions hurt. Tried it once. It's just sex so I've been told. He's going to be a hard one to top. Don't be offended if I don't respond Being honest will send pic if you catch my eye.” Now, I was planning on breaking No Contact at the end of the month, after 4 or 5 weeks, after we’d had time to sort our thoughts out to see if there was a chance of reconciliation. Now I’m considering contacting her to let her know that this one night stand is not a good idea. I’m truly worried for her: STD’s, no time to heal, low self esteem, etc… I really don’t care if she screws another guy, but most women are incapable of a true NSA. As a human being, I want to talke to her and let her know it’s not a good idea. As a former lover who would like to try reconciliation, I’ll probably have to deal with this later when I break NC according to plan, or is it best to break NC now and take my chances??? I would talk to her as a friend about working through her feelings in a healthy way. I don’t think I’d ask for reconciliation at this point though. Also, we’re middle aged, not teenagers. Edited September 12, 2013 by cmoonl7 Formatting issues
CW_in_NOLA Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 You're probably not going to like hearing this, but... No, don't contact her. For now you are out of her life. You can't rescue her. You can't interfere in how she runs her own life, good bad or indifferent. If you love her enough to want a second chance with her, then you absolutely MUST respect her decisions because they are hers. Further, allowing her to experience whatever she's out to experience gives you a chance to shine by comparison. I guarantee you, no one night stand will take the place of someone warm and familiar in her heart. This sounds like her numbing the pain, and that lasts only so long. Stick to your plan. Be patient. Figure out what went wrong and fix your part of it. That's the best you can do right now.
crederer Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 send her a pic of your dick and see if she goes for it
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