trily84 Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Hi all, you got to help me with this. I met a girl in class and started to like her since the first sight, we're sitting near each other but there hadn't been no conversation until half the semester I decided to initiate one. Since I'm kind of shy I'm only talking to her after class on the way to another building (yet different classes) .We've been talking to each other for several times and most the time I found her laughing at my initiation (by questioning and giving compliments about herself) and I feel she gladly to talk to me (smiles, eyes contact, and somehow leaning toward me (im not quite sure about this)). But it's not always positive, she's always quiet in class and kind of ignoring me in and out of class, besides I'm the only one who always start the conversation and asking questions, she just never asking me anything or even saying my name. The last time I give her a note asking her email address, she gave me hers but I felt she was being uncomfortable then. Next day I sent her an email just to say "hi" and "how you doing" stuff and no response.. I felt depressed now I think she's not interested in me at all, but thinking about the way she responses when I talk to her make me more confused. I'm not gonna give up this girl but after this semester I'll be moving and not gonna see her again. So I have almost a month to speed up but not sure what to do ! Anybody could give me any advice !
DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 I feel you, You really need to think about this. What are your chances of you two hooking up? Do you mostly get positive or negative feedback from her. Whenever you would ask a personal question such as ( email ) ..did she seem as if she didn't really want you to know it? You should really take all these into account. If overall you feel there's a chance.. then be optimistic. If its the opposite.. then you might as well prepare yourself to just let her go her seperate way. Why do you want to start something up with her if you're moving? Are you planning on having a long-distance relationship with her? Usually those don't work out. Especially if the person you're 'seeing' hasn't really had much time to get to know you. Just asking these questions to better help you. Good LuCC
expos Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 I'm almost in the same situation you are. I've been thinking about the same girl for maybe four to five years. I've seen her a couple times in public a long time ago, but she has no idea who I am. There had to be a reason I thought about her for all these years. I finally located her email address, wrote to her, she wrote me back, and I asked if I could meet her sometime and she said yes. She seemed happy about the whole thing...maybe even amazed. She even gave me her home phone number! and I gave her mine. It's been about a week and I still have not heard from her. I got the nerve to call her place and I left a message this past Wednesday. I've called a couple times since that, and I always get her machine, and I've never left additional messages. It's the most frustrating thing and I know exactly what you are going though. Is this relationship going to happen or not? All I want is just an hour with her, after all these years. I'm so close...and I might not be able to close the deal which gets me depressed. She has no idea how amazing I'd be for her. It might never happen, and I'm crushed by it. My advice is to keep pursuing in a way that's as not threatening as possible. When you meet her, look closely at her facial expression. Is she happy to see you? It will be apparent fairly quickly if your relationship with this girl will be a success or not.
niko1999 Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 If I were you, with the fact taht you are moving after this semester ends, and it is already the end of November, i would just let it go. Continue to be freindly, but dont go any further than that. I think if she was a little more interested, she probably wouldnt seem to be ignoring you, and only letting you initiate conversation. Of course, she could be shy, but generally, when a person doesnt give the feeling of wanting conversation, they ususaly dont. On the other hand, does she know youre moving? That could be playing a factor in her behavior as well Hey, Dayum, dont take offense to this, what exactly is your outfit supposed to be in your picutre?
joseph Posted November 20, 2004 Posted November 20, 2004 Just wondering? how far are you moving away from her once the semester is done? also..if you want to speed things up one way or another,,you need to act now and ask her out..what do you have to lose really..at least this way you'll know..instead of moving away never knowing,
Author trily84 Posted November 20, 2004 Author Posted November 20, 2004 expos, I really admire you for your long-lasting one-way-love. I just dont understaned why she was willing to give you her phone number yet in other way didnt reply any of your call, it's just complicated. answer to Dayum and expos, I myself confused about how she acts , as I said sometimes it seems very easy to talk to her, when she laugh and smile back to me (especially at the beginning of the conversation), sometimes she seems so .. "cold" and distant.. I dont know if she's just shy or quiet, she's quiet all the time, has only 1 or 2 female friends at school and usually very quiet with them as well and that's the reason makes me confused about whether her coldness is the act of not intersted in me. She's smart, serious and I love her personality. What do you think if I tell you everyday her mom takes her to school and pick her up after classes (possibly thay share carpool), of course she lives pretty far away from the school. Joseph, where I will move to is far I would say, and she knows about it. Niko, my thought is whether you can keep a distant-fast-love after I moved, supposed I'll tell her all my feelings ? if not, how can I keep a shallow friendship through such distance ?
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