Jonson Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 So me and my ex broke up a month or so ago , she broke up with me over something stupid, she can't even tell me why. She said over her daughter Nd this and that, but seemed like she had no valid reason. I think there might be someone else or she was not ready for a relationship. She was totally into me loving me and treating me good. She did so many nice things for me, and did it back. One time when we were together she said she had text her ex? and told him she had met someone new. Why would she do that? maybe she was trying to make him jealous or get back at him. So we have seen each other 3 or 4 times since we broke up she has been a bit flirty, and asking me if I'm gonna take her out still I'm like sure. So last week, she hints at me that she would like to go out, so I ask her out and she says ok, so we plan to go out this coming weekend. So I called her and text her and not heard back from her since last weds? I just said text or call me when you wanna hang out again. I was ok with being just friends or whatever, but its like she was always saying we would go out and hang, but its not been very often. I have been seeing someone else now and its going ok. Im trying to move on and hoping i can, but I kinda wanted stay in touch with my ex as a sign of good faith as we had a good thing, and we got along so well. But I don't get why she still was wanting to go out and then ignore me? She doesn't answer my texts sometimes ,even if they are friendly ones. It seems like she might just not wanna talk or see me anymore, even though we are not together I still have feelings for her in some way and it just hurts. I'm trying to move on, I think about my ex from time to time. I kinda feel like she mighta have just used me, this can knock a guy down pretty hard. Should I just not bother with her anymore ? And just wait for her to call me. I'm thinking just let her go.
barky2 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 She used you for a ego boost. You bit the dangling carrot. We've all done it, including me. PROPER NC FROM HERE ON OUT. Gracias Barky
DresdenKing Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 That's such a mean, selfish thing to do. I'm sorry to hear that. Block her and never indulge her nonsense again. Focus on the new budding relationship and good luck.
NewPerspective93 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 (edited) Sometimes holding onto something and being friends can't be done. A friendship is a mutual thing, not a give and take relationship. She doesn't reply till days later? I don't think you should wait around. If you did matter, the other person wouldn't just ignore you out of the blue. I was in the same situation with an ex and she did the same thing. I would text her something, and then after a while I'd text again to see how she was and it seemed as if she only wanted to talk on her terms. I stopped contacting her and realized I did the right thing; although I was persistent in contacting her at first, she never did the same. Lesson learned. Focus on yourself and in your current relationship. Why does her opinion matter in this case? It seems as if she was using you for an ego boost, by testing you in seeing whether you'd take her out when she'd ask you about "hanging" out and whether or not if she was still important to you, kind of like her pulling the leash to see if you're still there. Every guys thinks about their ex constantly. It's beneficial you move on and not focus on your ex, for various reasons. Why should you keep contacting her when she doesn't even reply? This isn't a healthy "friendship". You shouldn't wait for her and keep contacting her because you feel you should be a friend. Focus on yourself and the lady you're with right now. Cheers. Edited September 12, 2013 by NewPerspective93 1
Author Jonson Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 She kept saying along in the 6 month time were together she fell madly I love with me, hmm really doubt it. She talked about these future plans etc she was nice to me for pretty much the whole time, I did feel good. But it seemed liked she got upset one time and it went downhill from there, seems like she was mad at me then. I don't know if I fell for all her actions and words, she said a few times that she would always stay friends no matter what? It seemed like a serious relationship, then again she is a woman who ill never understand ever. I'm just an honest guy and I'm friends with one of my old ex girls friends which i dated for 4 years, and we been friends for 8 years and its all good. I think this girl has alot in the closet and hiding. So much bs I think, friends what does that mean, she ain't got a clue. I'm done with her now and moving along with this other girl and will be carefull with my heart
flitzanu Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 yeah just stick to NC. she's being fickle and trying to string you along, so i wouldn't go for it. you don't owe her anything and you especially don't owe her a friendship since she chose to remove you from her life.
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