Paralyzed Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I left my ex last January. She moved to be with me from another province 2 years ago. Things were not working, but I loved her very much. After months of still spending time with her bc she had no friends or family here, and her crying and begging, she went online and met another guy. She suddenly had no interest in me. I was planning on trying again but now she didn't want me. 3 or 4 months have passed and we have had virtually no contact until last week. I realized she still had my passport in a lockbox at our old apartment where she still lives, and I have a trip planned for out of the country. I had to phone her, she answered and was friendly until she realized what I was calling for. I didn't make small talk, just politely asked for my passport. She denied having it at first and proceeded to tell me how busy she was and that she would be away all week etc. I am close with her landlady as I had lived in the apartment before my ex moved here. I know she wasn't that busy, and I know she wasn't away that week. My ex then phoned back and said she would look for it. she again attempted to talk about her plans and mentioned that she had been to Vegas (which I already knew). It took two days of texting for her to admit she had the passport. She then made it difficult for me to get it. She was too busy she said to bring it upstairs to the landlady. I thought this would be the easiest way to avoid seeing each other. She insisted I come and get the document myself. It killed me to have to see her. She was dressed casual but her makeup was flawless. Unusual she wanted to see me since she had avoided it many times before, and unusual her makeup was done after work. She always removed it when we lived together. She looked me up and down and didn't say a word. I took the passport and said thanks and left immediately. The original guy she met was a jerk, it lasted 3 weeks. She moved on to a much older guy of a diff race and culture who had money. He is the one that paid for her Vegas Trip. I have spoken with the landlady a few times. She believes that my ex is miserable and does not appear or act happy. Still has no friends and even rarely sees the new sugar daddy around anymore. I don't know why my ex refused to make the passport exchange easier, as it was pretty simple. I felt that she wanted me to see her, as she has lost a lot of weight, or she wanted to see me as it's been so long. I have missed her all summer but her decisions have been so odd. And it seems like she is lost. I wonder now more than ever if she would try with me again. I moved into a new home and it devastated her that she couldn't move in with me. I would like to try again bc I would do things differently, but I don't want to put myself out there so she can crush me again. Does my ex miss me? Did she want to see me and use the passport exchange as an opportunity?
Dolphono Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Since you left her, the question is. Do you miss her? I think you do, but you're afraid of rejection. Start with short daily texts, work up to short phone calls and just play the "getting back" game out.
Nyclovin Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 She sounds like bad news who never truly cared about you otherwise she couldn't have done the things she did . You sound like a guy that can do better and you really should. 1
Cali408 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 One of the first sentences you stated, things weren't working out. Don't go back to her. She misses you and is looking for attention. That is why she made it difficult. Once it's over, it's over. Move on. You aren't responsible for her happiness. She is. And why are you asking the landlady? Move on.
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