Timm12 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 So my girlfriend of 4 years randomly broke up with me in July saying she needed a break and space and within a month she started seeing another guy, she told me she slept with him and says she loves him, while they were together only for a short time about a week and a half before he left for college out of state, they are now in a long distance relationship together. she told me she still loves me but she can't be with me right now because it doesn't feel right (whatever that means). I am extremely hurt and im having a really hard time getting past all of this, I have been in no contact with her for about 2 weeks. I guess i just expected too much of this person or she just lost her love for me. She had always been deeply in love with me and cared about me a lot, but she randomly had a change of heart. We both had our own problems in the relationship but we worked through them, I really wish she wouldnt of gave up on us, I still hope someday we can have another chance but I know need to move on and its going to prolong the pain if i feel this way. I learned a lot from this break up though, I really messed up when we were together and I got overly comfortable with her being there all the time, I think this pushed her away overtime. I can't go back in time though and now im trying my best to improve myself and my own life but its extremely hard to do.
gazza141 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 That sounds abit like what i am going through but like what people have told me on here go out and enjoy yerself it has been working for me and it really does make you feel better. But i do know what you going through as i am going through the same but things will get better
Author Timm12 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 yeah, I've been trying to do that as much as I can, it seems to help temporarily but all the pain just returns soon after. I'm sorry your going through something similar.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 Similar experience. I dated a guy for years. Thought he was great, caring, loving, had my back. Broke up with me. Within a week he'd screwed some random he met on facebook. Now he's trying to crack onto anything that moves - so I've heard. I can honestly say no one had ever hurt me that much in my life. And I also felt like a total idiot for believing he was something he wasn't. Love is blind. In the end I realised it was a blessing. Because Id rather of found out he was like that after a few years, then wasting say 10 years with him, and finding out then.
Mz_sassy_77 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 And I want to add this...when someone breaks up with you and they come back with things like I miss you, I love you, etc...Its just a way of trying to keep you hanging on. They don't want to be with you, but they don't want you to move on either, I think in case it doesn't work out for them they can come back for another crack. Its pretty **** of em I reckon. The absolutely best thing you can do for yourself is accept that its over, go through the gamut of emotions you will feel, and then you can start to move on. Holding onto hope they will come back only draws this out for longer. And instead of getting right with it in say a month or two, it will take a lot longer. Because you still haven't accepted that its over. Not trying to be harsh. Just trying to give some good advice.
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