irc333 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I recently corresponded with a woman online, lives locally in a even more RURAL area outside my city. (Yes, as you further progress away from a major metropolitan area....the more towns become remote with single squad cars as their police departement.LOL) Anyhow, she mentions she's an outdoor enthusiast and is a horse owner and lives in the country (pictures of her riding horses). I'm an outdoor enthusiast as well and it appears that we share the same value system. She did respond that she thought we didn't have the same kind of interests and to "wish me luck in my search". I was kind of baffled, because our choice in hobbies and extracurricular activities were pretty much dead on, so replied with, "Well, from what I read we're both into the outdoors, share the same interests in pretty much a lot of things, but I fail to understand." No response....but at any rate this does bring up a question. I've seen people in these forums that say, "Oh, you had TOO many interests and shared too many of the same things....some people don't like carbon copies of one another" as if that was a bad thing? LOL Kind of funny how they throw the ol' "opposites attracted" I could have said to her, but that'd be so cliche'd Responses like "Oh, you were TOO much of a match, I couldn't sate someone that's TOO much of a match" I mean, really, would you ACTUALLY go hiking or kayaking with a group of people, ask one of the women in the group out and turn the guy down only because "I'm sorry, I don't date people who kayak, hike, and camp like I do...we'd be TOO much of a match". Said no person ever.
madjac74 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 In my long experience with online dating, EVERYONE says "I just love the outdoors!" So it is almost like you can strike that one from any search criteria or deciding factor in a future match. There must have been some other reason she didn't feel you guys were a match. Maybe it was some vibe she got by the way you wrote or looked. Or maybe she feels like I do that it's a bit far fetched that everyone is so enthusiastic about the outdoors. 1
Emilia Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I mean, really, would you ACTUALLY go hiking or kayaking with a group of people, ask one of the women in the group out and turn the guy down only because "I'm sorry, I don't date people who kayak, hike, and camp like I do...we'd be TOO much of a match". Said no person ever. She didn't like your photos or something else about you. Nothing to do with interests whatsoever. 5
miss_jaclynrae Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Outdoorsy is so general. Nothing you said in your post screams to me that you guys belong together. Since you guys messaged a bit, she obviously saw something in you she didn't like. No biggy, on to the next one.
scorpiogirl Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Right, she wasn't interested in meeting. She was trying to let you down in a polite way and saying you don't have the same interests is a bit kinder than ignoring your message, saying she didn't think you were physically attractive to her, you were too short, too tall, whatever it was. You should just have left it at that. Not sent her another message. 1
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