Might have a shot !

[loveiswar101]

Ok, had lunch with mate who is dating her friend. He said I gotta take the bull by the horns, I replied she asked for space.

 

Anyhow after much thought I though you only live once and has been a week and didn't want to go into the weekend with nothing, would of killed me.

 

Cut along story short I went into her work and asked if I could have a minute of her time, she look confused and bewildered. Maybe just she didn't expect it.

 

Anyhow went in tea room and just told her I needed to talk to her one one on one and thrash this out. I explained I knew she was busy and tied with all family stuff but had to be tonight. She looked at me and lent forward and gave me a hug and kiss. I said I missed here but was more interested in seeing her tonight and could we make a time. (After watching Corey Wayne youtube clips, I had to tie down a time and place). She said she would be home around 6 and had nothing at home and if I wanted to pick up a bottle of wine. I just said I would and would see her at 6.

 

And left.

 

Now do I have a second chance..I'm hopeful.

 

Watch plenty of youtube clips and believe I have to be honest and put cards on table and see what she comes back with.

 

I'm really serious on this woman and after a year I do not want to screw it up. I think this will be my only one chance to make this right.

 

I get emotional very easy, so have to be strong and have to say the right things.

 

Penny for your thoughts people..

Edited September 12, 2013 by loveiswar101
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[lylat333]

Wow, um... I can be an emotional guy too, but I really think you need to take a deep breath about all this and not bank all your hopes and dreams on this one get-together.

 

She gave you a kiss... mentioned that you could buy a bottle of wine... I don't think you have much reason to be concerned.

 

Forget about "saying the right things" and taking advice from YouTube clips. They may have given you confidence which is good but you need to be you, relax, and simply enjoy this other person's company. Don't look at it as your only chance to make things right and set your expectations sky high, in fact forget setting any expectations.

 

Those are my thoughts - relax, seriously. Think about being happy with who you are as a person and being that person when it comes to dating/relationships and you will be fine. If they don't like it, then there's no reason to pursue a relationship with that person. On the other hand you might be fortunate enough to find someone who likes who you are and you won't have to worry about watching YouTube clips to coach yourself on how to act and what to say. Good luck - if it doesn't work out it's all for the better.

[loveiswar101]

Many thanks there, well we caught up at her house after she finished work. We sat down and started talking, ironically it wasn't all about us to start and more about her family and what was going on there, then to us, she told me she was hurt by my actions and with this had fallen back into her shell of before meeting me (ie work, kids etc). I said I was sorry and then she opened up more...

 

She goes onto say that I need to get all my finances and junk out the way before she can think of a future together with us. I currently live with my mate and she say's it's just not ideal (at my age I agree, but at the time it was convenient and cheap) as she doesn't feel comfortable with it.

 

I look in the mirror and the on outside all looks fine but the baggage and lifestyle i lead at my age can't be attractive.

 

Anyhow she's asked for space and I said fine as long as she just doesn't block me out. More bits and bobs were said but I got the drift. Anyhow she was tired and after about 1 1/2 to 2 hrs i excused myself.

 

At her door we kissed and cuddled for 3-4 mins or so (I had seen her for a whole weak) it was awesome. Walking down the drive way she timidly calls out she loves me. I try to stay strong smile and get around the corner only to feel the tears flood.

 

Get home and later that evening get a text. I was nice to see me, sometimes we need to go backwards to go forwards, she's tired and might be a good time for her to recharge and me to consolidate my affairs. This journey will show what strength we have for each other, most of all lets keep positive.

 

I didn't text back that night but just before mid-day next morning. That it was nice to see her and believe it is a good time to do those things and to look after herself and her boys and enjoy her day off tomorrow (today) and have a generally good weekend.

 

THATS IT.

 

Getting the vibe I'm not a great catch after all but if can get my affairs in order I might have a chance.

 

I love the woman and do not want to lose her...Feel time to prove to me and her who I am a what I can be/do with my life.