Dorota Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 So my ex and I have recently started talking. From all our talks, I've noticed how he won't apologize to me. Even when I explained to him how I felt and why I couldn't be friends with him right away he responded with, "I'm sorry you feel that way." That response just made it seem like he was discounting my feelings and not acknowledging that his actions are what led me to feel the way I feel. However, our common friends have told me that he easily admits that he now realizes he was a terrible boyfriend. Why is it he can admit this to our friends, but not admit it to me, the one person it really means anything to? I realize, for my own peace, I have to forgive him even though I may never get an apology. But a part of me feels like I can't be true friends with him until he does apologize to me...
RiceaRoni Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 I'm no Dumper... But it's a sense of pride. He wants to feel he did the right thing even though according to your friends he didn't. He's not going to openly admit he was wrong about dumping you. Because he's the type of person that doesn't like to be wrong or admit to his mistakes. Pride. It's what a lot of us has when we don't want to admit we were wrong. Especially in a life changing decision such as breaking up with someone. 2
Calcmag Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 But a part of me feels like I can't be true friends with him until he does apologize to me... There's no universal rule that says you have to be true friends with an ex. Ever. The best outcome is usually this : you do your healing and then reach a place where you can wish the other person well with no hard feelings, but they're irrelevant to your current life. Sure, they'll always be a part of your past, but it's often unrealistic to cling to the idea of wanting to be true friends. And it definitely makes the healing/getting over them process much tougher.
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