First time seeking help on this matter. Feeling depressed >.<

[Something123]

Hey, im kinda new at this and my english isnt the best :/ , im just trying to figure out what to do. Ill try to keep this short.

 

So, im 19 years old and she is 21, we met at a college party, we had some fun and the next day she was adding me on facebook and started talking. I never met someone like her, she was just fun to talk to, after getting her number we would talk all day non-stop, basically i fell for her.

 

We had the best 3 months, she was always interested and worried about me, she wanted to know everything about me, im extremely shy, and she just understood that, and made me feel good, wich was the first time that happened (i had some girls before but never felt like this with anyone, even being shy i could open myself to her). She asked me to never leave her, or stop talking to her, normally i would freak out but with her i felt good with that, she truly cared (atleast it seemed), on that moment i said that i loved her, first time in my life i meant that, she hugged me was almost in tears, and said i love you too.

 

She introduced me to her friends, she told her friends she had found the right guy for her, that she never been happier with someone. Then college ended and we went to diferent towns for summer vacation, we still would talk everyday, and she was saying that she missed me. By the end of the summer she was getting distant and cold, i got a bit confused and asked her what was the problem wich she said she is just spending more time with her friends and her family, i understood and dropped the subject, then she didnt talk to me for 4 days wich was strange and i asked again:

"-Are you sure everything is ok?"-then she replied.

"-Im having some family trouble, sorry but i cant continue with this relationship. Have a nice vacation."

She just said that and my stomach just went to a rollercoaster, my eyes were almost in tears, i tried to understand the problem, so I may overtexted her on that moment (yeah i know, big mistake!), she replied always cold and said "I dont want to be with anyone." Got myself emotionally stable and told her atleast to be friends, wich she accepted. One month later of almost no communication i was having some trouble geting over her, since she was always present on my life, so i confronted her and said i couldnt be friends with her because it was not what i felt for her, and it was hurting me seeing her only as a friend, she said: if it is the best thing for you, do it." I was kinda shocked because i expected atleast a reaction (a bit childish on my part i know) but since then i never talked to her again, i unfriended her from facebook because she was always appearing on my news feed and i was stalking her profile wich didnt help me at all. Now i dont know what to do, she is still the person i love and i would do everything for her, even give time for her to resolve her family problems, but now im on a bad position i cant just start talking to her again, that would make me look bad. The problem is i dont know if she still feels the same, i dont know what problem it is because she doesnt want to tell me, and i dont know if there is hope for a future together, she did everything that she asked me not do to her. Im really confused, please give me your opinions on this matter it would mean a lot.

Edited September 12, 2013 by Something123

[blotter]

She doesn't feel the same for you the way you do for her otherwise she would want to be with you. Her "family problems" is code for there is a new man in her life. When one partner in a couple is having family problems they will lean on and look for support from the other partner, not break up with them. You are too young to caught up in this nonsense, go No Contact and move on there are lots of single women around.

[Something123]

Yeah i know it shouldnt matter to me and i should move on, but how can someone in a matter of two weeks change her mind about someone, well guess you are right, really feel sad about that, but thats life i guess, thanks for the reply, appreciate it