prettypie Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 I have been friends with a guy for 5 years and for all of that time i have thought maybe I felt more. We get on really well, want the same things and I have had many intuitions over the time I have known him that we are going to end up married one day! Every time i get serious about a boyfriend I start doubting my feelings and wondering if I should be with my friend not this guy. The thing is, hes not very good looking. I kissed him recently and although it was nice, i didnt feel any oh my god I really fancy you feeling. I think about him loads though and I love being with him. He has told me how much he feels for me and how I am the sort of girl he would want to marry one day. I have been seeing another guy who although doesnt treat me right and wants to be single and play the field I keep going back to him because of the chemistry and attraction between us. Am I focussing on the wrong things here? can the chemistry you feel instantly with some people come later with somebody you have grown to love over the years? actually any advice for any of what i have said would be much appreciated!!
bluechocolate Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Every time i get serious about a boyfriend I start doubting my feelings and wondering if I should be with my friend not this guy. The thing is, hes not very good looking. I have been seeing another guy who although doesnt treat me right and wants to be single and play the field I keep going back to him because of the chemistry and attraction between us. Am I focussing on the wrong things here? Are you serious?
morrigan Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 If your current boyfriend doesn't treat you decently and plays around, break it off with him. He won't change his ways. As far as your friend, you should not date him at this point in time. You like him for who he is, but you don't sound like you have any sexual attraction for him. He may be an absolutely great guy, and may be a wonderful person to be in a relationship with, but until you get past your rather shallow concern over his physical appearance, it won't work. And it's only fair that he gets the chance to meet other girls who will like the whole package, rather than only his personality.
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