luckyinlove07 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 So my GF and I have been dating for a little more than a month and we have become sexually active with one another. We've talked about things and she said that she really likes sex. I'm fine with that; most guys would be. The other day we were in bed together and she reached over to get a condom out of her bedside drawer. She wasn't trying to hide anything and I wasn't trying to peek; it was just open and I was there. But there were a variety of condoms in the drawer and some cash. The condoms don't alarm me that much. We're adults and we've only been dating for about a month or so. I am not blind to the realization that she was probably having sex with guys before me and it's reassuring to know she was being safe about it. But the cash, and so many condoms in the same drawer as the cash kind of made me think. Should I be concerned about this? She is a rather successful, high-powered professional. So it's not like she needs money. But when she pays for things when we're out on dates it's usually with a card, I don't really see her carry cash, so this kind of seemed out of the ordinary. Also it's not like she exudes the potential for deleterious behavior; she's and educated, classy and wealthy woman, not a trailer park stripper. It's just kind of the circumstances as a whole that concern me. Are these normal contents of a woman's bedside drawer or should I be concerned about something?
HappyLove Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Even if she was a ho does it matter where she stashes the money? Lol, sorry I'd hate to be judged by wherever I randomly place things. Do you think it was a subliminal message for you to pay up? 3
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I don't see it as abnormal. I would hate to see you try to make connections between all the bizarre things in my nightstand. 9
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Only one way to find out! Do the dirty and see if you get a receipt at the end of it! If there is no signed contract in the UK we have the Trading Standards so you could easily dispute the charge and be on your way! Seriously....it is probably just her draw she keeps her sex stuff, fags, drugs, money in....we all have that draw!
MrCastle Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Seriously....it is probably just her draw she keeps her sex stuff, fags, drugs, money in....we all have that draw! There are no fags in my drawer. 4
Author luckyinlove07 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 There are no fags in my drawer. Not sure if this was a serious confusion or if you were being facetious, but in the UK cigarettes are commonly referred to as fags. Still welcome more thoughts on my original question. 3
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 No fags in my draw either. I hide them in the closet. Even so I was referencing the draw analysis rather than the contents. She is probably a hooker OP but it is always nice to have options. 3
HokeyReligions Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Ask her. Seriously why are you reading into this and asking strangers on the internet?
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Ask her. Seriously why are you reading into this and asking strangers on the internet? Good point. It could even be a joke... "Condoms and cash??? Is there something we need to talk about?" 1
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Hi sweetheart, I notice you have rubbers and benjamin's in your knicker draw, I just wanted to ask if you think I should get an AIDS test? Yeah that conversation is going to go down real well.
Author luckyinlove07 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 In all seriousness, the reason I am seeking advice elsewhere, is because I am not sure how to have that conversation and not get slapped, or more realistically dumped. I don't really want to ask my close friends or family and give them a bad impression of her. Would any women on this forum care to weigh in on how they would feel if their significant other asked, maybe in a joking way like the one suggested by pteromom above, why you have cash and condoms in the drawer together? Would you be offended, embarrassed, angry? Would you laugh and just answer?
veggirl Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 You should've just been like "haha you keep your cash with your condom stash?!" I don't keep cash in drawers. They would require transfering it from my wallet/purse to a drawer. Why would I do that just to have to transfer it back again. Keeping cash in a drawer seems more like a dude thing. I think its funny she had an array of different condoms. Like one for any size that could possibly pass her way?
todreaminblue Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 i put my brush in the fridge....... i have frozen flour and i have an egg whisk sittign next to my bed....why is the egg whisk near my bed.....i have a granddaughter who raids my kitchen drawers and put it there ....i am not bdsming with an egg whisk ....if you would think of that...ok maybe its just me who would think of that... she has money in a drawer......thats not surprising........ i have by mistake refrigerated my cat over night...opened the fridge door in the mornign and a very cold cat popped out.......no i am not a serial killer.....i also freeze my keycard on occasion.......deb dexter 2
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 i put my brush in the fridge....... i have frozen flour and i have an egg whisk sittign next to my bed....why is the egg whisk near my bed.....i have a granddaughter who raids my kitchen drawers and put it there ....i am not bdsming with an egg whisk ....if you would think of that...ok maybe its just me who would think of that... she has money in a drawer......thats not surprising........ i have by mistake refrigerated my cat over night...opened the fridge door in the mornign and a very cold cat popped out.......no i am not a serial killer.....i also freeze my keycard on occasion.......deb dexter You put your brush in your fridge?! What the hell?!...
HokeyReligions Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 In all seriousness, the reason I am seeking advice elsewhere, is because I am not sure how to have that conversation and not get slapped, or more realistically dumped. I don't really want to ask my close friends or family and give them a bad impression of her. Would any women on this forum care to weigh in on how they would feel if their significant other asked, maybe in a joking way like the one suggested by pteromom above, why you have cash and condoms in the drawer together? Would you be offended, embarrassed, angry? Would you laugh and just answer? Sheesh. Its really not your business especially since you don't know each well. Maybe she keeps it there as a test to see if new livers are hoint to steal from her. Just ask her if you sre that curious. "Hey I'm just curious but I noticed you have cash in your drawer. What's that about?" "I noticed you have cash in your drawer, do you think that's safe? What if there's a break in?" Not too subtle but it might work. I still say just ask her.
HokeyReligions Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I can't type. It should be lovers and going. I would laugh and answer.
runningfar Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I have cash in my drawer right now. Like $300. I sold something on Craigslist and knew I couldn't make it to the bank so thought it would be safer in the drawer until a convenient day. Uhh, no, that isn't what I sold on Craigslist. 2
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Would any women on this forum care to weigh in on how they would feel if their significant other asked, maybe in a joking way like the one suggested by pteromom above, why you have cash and condoms in the drawer together? Would you be offended, embarrassed, angry? Would you laugh and just answer? It really depends on the rest of the dynamic of your relationship as well as how easily offended she is. Some women would think it was hilarious and keep it going as an inside joke for years, and others would be highly offended at the implication that she may be a ho, and would dump you immediately. But if you can't talk to her about something like this in some way, it doesn't bode well for your relationship.
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I have cash in my drawer right now. Like $300. I sold something on Craigslist and knew I couldn't make it to the bank so thought it would be safer in the drawer until a convenient day. Uhh, no, that isn't what I sold on Craigslist. ROFL ROFL ROFL And LOL
heartshaped Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Meh. I have a drawer like that. I keep money, lubricant, underwear, and nighties in it. It's my "all purpose drawer". I think people everywhere keep random stuff in their bedside drawer. 2
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Meh. I have a drawer like that. I keep money, lubricant, underwear, and nighties in it. It's my "all purpose drawer". I think people everywhere keep random stuff in their bedside drawer. Hi there, Dallers. Pleased to meet you. Soooo this drawer of yours..... 1
candie13 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I have an oversized wallet that i've stopped carrying around, meaning that my cash flows freely in my small little purse. I of course change purses... where do I put all the coins and notes, when I'm too lazy to reach for my wallet? In my drawer. When it comes to me and cash, I either have zero cash or several hundreds with me. what I'm saying is: not all girls keep their stuff in order, and sometimes the associations would ... well... surprise you. I actually have some furry cat ears inside my bedside table. I've left them there since last halloween - amazing party !!!! Imagine what somebody looking inside might think... (prob asking where the tail is, hahaha). She's not a ho, she's a wealthy, successful, well educated and rather messy woman, lol!!! 1
Divasu Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 In all seriousness, the reason I am seeking advice elsewhere, is because I am not sure how to have that conversation and not get slapped, or more realistically dumped. I don't really want to ask my close friends or family and give them a bad impression of her. Would any women on this forum care to weigh in on how they would feel if their significant other asked, maybe in a joking way like the one suggested by pteromom above, why you have cash and condoms in the drawer together? Would you be offended, embarrassed, angry? Would you laugh and just answer? People keep all kinds of stuff in their nightstands. Mine has books that I never finished reading. Naturally, if she has condoms next to her bed, your immediate thoughts are going to be that she is/or has had sex recently or was planning on it. And, you probably think she is a prostitute because there also happens to be money next to it. So, if I were her and you asked me, I would think that you thought I was a hooker. 2
HappyLove Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Ok, spill it OP- I'm convinced something else must have happened for you to jump to this conclusion! Like did you meet in a weird way, was there questionable activity on her part that made you go...hmmm.
Author luckyinlove07 Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 No, everything has actually been great. It's just the combination of her declaration that she really likes sex, more than a few condoms in different sizes, and cash that seemed out of the ordinary to me. It is precisely because things are going so well that I am hoping I am just being ridiculous and reading too much into this. I don't want to ruin a great thing by asking a stupid question if there is no cause for concern.
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