Why is she mad at me?

[Mcscooter]

My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, but one thing that always bothers me was that she was mad at me. She dumped me because she still wants to know what's out there. Well she wanted to explore. Since I was her first love. I took the break up pretty good. I got my closure and I didn't beg for her, but obviously I did ask her why. No tears from me, but she cried. I actually understand what she's going through because I was once in that position, so as upset as I was, I wasn't so long. Anyways the thing I just don't understand is why she was so mad at me. Like she really hated me. She even post statues up. made twitter tweets about me. I only know because one of my female friends pointed it out, asking me whats up between us. I didn't even do anything wrong. She pretty much let me go. I just want to know why else would she be mad at me, if I didn't do anything wrong and she was the one that left me. Girls can be so hard to figure out sometimes.

 

3 Years Relationship.

It has been No Contact since the break up.

I got my sh*t together

Pretty much moved on, but not completely because it bothers me that she was mad. It is the only thing I wonder.

 

I would generously ask for any ones opinion.

if you have questions that your wondering, ask as well. I'm pretty open about it.

[reddragon588]

You never know what goes through other people's minds. You said yourself it is her first love and likely her first real breakup. She probably does not know how to handle it. It sounds like a sign of immaturity. She may feel the only way to move past a relationship is by hating the other person. My ex for some reason felt that if we weren't friends, it meant there was bad blood between us, as she did not understand how a breakup works. Maybe your ex has similar misconceptions. I would suggest continuing to ignore her and just let her be. She is really only making herself look stupid. Does anyone ever see one of those Facebook statuses moaning about an ex and say, you know? That really boosts my opinion of that person!

[forgetmenot75]

She might be mad because she probably was expecting some kind of begging from your part. You did nothing and moved on, that must have sucked for her self esteem

 

Good for you, and the last thing you have to overcome is not to think why she does this or why she is mad or not. HER LOSS and I'm pretty sure she's already regretting her dumb move

[stormer1092]

My GF dumped me for the same reason. I think its a really dumb reason. I mean why would you ruin something really good for a "chance" for something better.

[Dorota]

It could just be her way of dealing with the break-up. My ex and I went through the same thing. He dumped me, but was mad at me. When we started talking he it was because I immediately went no contact with him. The NC made him feel like we were fighting and being mad was the way he could deal with it.

 

I had to accept the fact that there was nothing I could do. My ex's feelings are his feelings alone. He has to deal with them. Just like you shouldn't worry about how your ex is feeling. You should worry about yourself and your healing process.

[Ireallydontknow]

Because hate is easier to deal with than sadness and tears. It's immature. Especially if you've done nothing wrong. I'm sure it's being done to me right now. It's been done to me before. Girl leaves, then starts talking smack on me! The only smack I talk on her is the truth!

[Mcscooter]

I could agree that she was being immature. We're both still young. It really clicks putting the puzzle pieces together. Appreciate the help guys.

[Mcscooter]

My GF dumped me for the same reason. I think its a really dumb reason. I mean why would you ruin something really good for a "chance" for something better.

Well, sometimes that "chance" maybe better. You could live your whole life wondering what it would of been like if you took that chance living in regret or you could choose to find out. Succeed or Fail. We all learn.

Try to understand that. Example it's just like wondering if you ever made a move on that girl you liked, but you never did. If you did you'd probably be happy with a family in the future. You didn't though so nothing ever happened. You see where i'm going with this?

[flitzanu]

My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, but one thing that always bothers me was that she was mad at me. She dumped me because she still wants to know what's out there. Well she wanted to explore. Since I was her first love. I took the break up pretty good. I got my closure and I didn't beg for her, but obviously I did ask her why. No tears from me, but she cried. I actually understand what she's going through because I was once in that position, so as upset as I was, I wasn't so long. Anyways the thing I just don't understand is why she was so mad at me. Like she really hated me. She even post statues up. made twitter tweets about me. I only know because one of my female friends pointed it out, asking me whats up between us. I didn't even do anything wrong. She pretty much let me go. I just want to know why else would she be mad at me, if I didn't do anything wrong and she was the one that left me. Girls can be so hard to figure out sometimes.

 

3 Years Relationship.

It has been No Contact since the break up.

I got my sh*t together

Pretty much moved on, but not completely because it bothers me that she was mad. It is the only thing I wonder.

 

I would generously ask for any ones opinion.

if you have questions that your wondering, ask as well. I'm pretty open about it.

 

 

anger and guilt can quickly turn into regret. wanting to explore means giving up security to try the unknown, but everyone wants that safety net ex bf/gf to be waiting when they are done exploring and they get pissed when we don't sit around and wait.