steveT95 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Just over a week ago I returned to college and on the first day I spoke to this really nice girl. We had a lot in common and got on quite well. I know her classes and I know her first name. That's it. We only spoke for about 15 minutes but I would like to see her again. What's the best way of going about this? I can't just turn up to her class because that would be weird. I could ask someone in her class what her second name is to try and find her on facebook? Any suggestions on how to go about talking to her again?
365daysgone Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 How would the Facebook approach do you any good? You don't think it would be at all weird to send her a message on Facebook? As for what you should do, I honestly do not know. If you see her in the hall alone, try to approach her? I don't know. But I know searching her on Facebook has the potential of creating an infatuation for you which will cause you to go mad. So do not take that approach.
Dallers Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Have you never seen a teen chick flick?! Surely this is like the bread and butter approach being at school/college and being able to just have multiple possibilities in every room around you. Wait till you reach adulthood and have to actually go out and hunt them down! Why do you need a name? I do not need a name, it might risk me not liking the name and not asking her out because of it. First name is enough. You know her classes, find out when it finishes, get to the class just before she comes out, as she walks out with her mates call her out, she will see you and then look at her mates (they will all giggle) she will then come over to you and you ask her out..... This happens in every chick flick movie!
Author steveT95 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 You know her classes, find out when it finishes, get to the class just before she comes out, as she walks out with her mates call her out, she will see you and then look at her mates (they will all giggle) she will then come over to you and you ask her out..... This happens in every chick flick movie! Good idea, but that makes me sound like a 13 year old school girl haha I figured the facebook idea, assuming we had 'mutual friends' then I could say 'Hey, recognised you on the mutual friends bit and thought I'd add you, how are you?' I don't know, something like that. Its been awhile since I've done this lark.
Author steveT95 Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 I saw her today. We were in the same room and she came and sat next to me. Admittedly it was the only seat left, but she did start talking to me beforehand. We chatted a fair bit for about an hour. I asked if she was on facebook. She told me she was but there wasn't any point adding her because she's hardly ever on it. I think it is to soon to ask her for her mobile or ask her to meet up somewhere. We only see each other an hour a week, if that. How can I progress things?
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Mliu Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 I saw her today. We were in the same room and she came and sat next to me. Admittedly it was the only seat left, but she did start talking to me beforehand. We chatted a fair bit for about an hour. I asked if she was on facebook. She told me she was but there wasn't any point adding her because she's hardly ever on it. I think it is to soon to ask her for her mobile or ask her to meet up somewhere. We only see each other an hour a week, if that. How can I progress things? The next time you see her, ask her if she would like to go to McDonald jokes... just ask her if she want to go out. somewhere nice obviously then get her number. once that's done, you probably see her more often.
preach Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Dude, Woman like confidence! It sucks, cause most guys are reduced to shaking dweebs around beautiful women but that is just the way it goes. This is the thing, if you have chatted to her that much, you guys obviously have stuff in common. I suggest acting soon, be confident, ask her if she wants to go for a drink, it will take the edge off a bit I imagine. Dinners are so formal and make everyone nervous, keep it fun and light. Fact is you like her, and you want to take her out. If she says no (I doubt she will as you guys do seem to get on), you haven't exactly asked her on a date so it won't be that big of a blow to your ego. If she says yes, go somewhere fun with some good music, have a few drinks and then escalate physical contact with her when the time is right and gauge her reaction. By this I mean, joke with her, tease her, give her a play punch on the arm. Lean in close when you are talking to her (obviously not all the time but make use of opportunities). You will see very quickly how she feels about this, the, if she responds well kiss her. Just go for it, either way you win, you will gain experience and therefore be more comfortable approaching girls in the future. If worst comes to worst, you have gained a freind, just try to relax and have fun!
Author steveT95 Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Oh man, I don't want to be FRIENDZONED! Haha I have enough platonic female friends.. But yeah, that's good advice. I figure since there isn't many of us that are 18 in the year and I know her and I are, I could say something about that and how we should go for a drink sometime. And I'll be smooth and confident, of course!
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