saltyfishhead666 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 So over the last few days my mum has mentioned the ex sometime's and I generally ignore her. She brought up that I'd left a rather large amount of things there. Ipad charger, clothing, make up, shoes, wash kit the usual. Well about 10 minutes ago I intentionally broke no contact. My text to him read. I obviously have things at your place, could you please bag them up and take them to a charity place. Thank you I feel proud of me, I feel strong. At this point I know enough to know the relationship wasn't worth fighting for, and I feel confident because none of the issue's were mine. Just thought I'd share as I'm having a little victory over here! xxxxx 4
joe86 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Great idea I'd never of thought of that. I wonder how long it was before she threw out my toothbrush!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Great idea I'd never of thought of that. I wonder how long it was before she threw out my toothbrush! LOOOOL! Probably uses it to clean to toilet - Mine probably does but I don't care haha x 1
JDPT Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 A few days ago you packaged and mailed his stuff now you contact him to toss yours. If you ask me you are essentially looking for excuses to be linked to him somehow. And I agree how does you asking him to throw out these items a victory for you? 3
forgetmenot75 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 What victory are you talking about? In a couple hours you'll feel devastated from breaking no contact. You acted impulsively and you looked for an excuse to contact him. When you'll realize he doesn't give a schyt about you telling yo pick up his things, you'll feel worst. My best advice would have been to tell someone else to contacted him.
candie13 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 your mom should simply shut up about you and your ex. How much stuff did u leave over his place? Worth a 100$? 200$? It's not about the clothes or about your make up. It's about making a point to him. It is called provocation. You have invented a perfectly good excuse to contact him and test his reaction. Or prove you don't care. Either way, the only thing you should really be focusing on is yourself. NO CONTACT. It's the only way. It doesn't matter what he thinks, what you show him, how he may react or what he may say... he simply... does not exist. Please ask all your friends and family to stop mentioning him in conversations. Like Ever. They are reminding you of the past and you need to move on. Be firm and stay strong. 2
heartshaped Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I'm sorry, but aren't you and your ex expecting a child together? Maybe I missed an update somewhere, but that's the last thing I remember reading from you. I also remember the fact that you have at least one or two other children already. Don't you think all this behavior is a tad childish for someone in your position?
Ireallydontknow Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 A great example of the unusual situation where it can do good to break NC. It was emotionless, served to accomplish a goal, and you're feeling good. Well done. Sometimes I wonder if you post stuff to be counter culture :/ 1
blotter Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Serious if I was your ex that **** would be straight to the dumpster.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 A great example of the unusual situation where it can do good to break NC. It was emotionless, served to accomplish a goal, and you're feeling good. Well done. How do you know it was emotionless?Do you know her in person? I bet she's feeling awful right now.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 I didn't create a reason to message him. The reason was simple and to the point. He is home this weekend and I have zero desire to see him and don't need him showing up to my house to drop them off with my children around and missing him. Do I miss the man I thought I knew? Yeah do I miss him now? No. It's the morning after and I am still proud of my decision as the victory here was my final straw of being done. It was stopping crying, stopping being angry and hurt. As for the guy who said he would throw my things in the trash - he can do that for all I care its just stuff. He could make a bonfire with a life sized me on it and I wouldn't care.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 I'm sorry, but aren't you and your ex expecting a child together? Maybe I missed an update somewhere, but that's the last thing I remember reading from you. I also remember the fact that you have at least one or two other children already. Don't you think all this behavior is a tad childish for someone in your position? He will decide if he wants to have anything to do with his child when he chooses too. I won't force him nor do I personally have to have anything to do with him. Childish would be running off without giving him an option. He is given one (not from me) I'm a fully grown women, I can handle my own children although I don't think they are a concern for anyone else.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 your mom should simply shut up about you and your ex. How much stuff did u leave over his place? Worth a 100$? 200$? It's not about the clothes or about your make up. It's about making a point to him. It is called provocation. You have invented a perfectly good excuse to contact him and test his reaction. Or prove you don't care. Either way, the only thing you should really be focusing on is yourself. NO CONTACT. It's the only way. It doesn't matter what he thinks, what you show him, how he may react or what he may say... he simply... does not exist. Please ask all your friends and family to stop mentioning him in conversations. Like Ever. They are reminding you of the past and you need to move on. Be firm and stay strong. You are perfectly correct somewhat. I wasn't looking for justification, I don't want to show him I don't care. The point is simply he doesn't need my things and he certainly doesn't need to be "helpful" and bring them here and risk upsetting my son. To me he no longer exists, as we've all said over the last few weeks the man wasn't mine he was technically someone else's and I will the fill in. I can move on, be happy and push past this. However my son who has autism doesn't forget so easily and I don't need him being upset.
Omei Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 As for the guy who said he would throw my things in the trash - he can do that for all I care its just stuff. He could make a bonfire with a life sized me on it and I wouldn't care. Yet you contacted to tell him you would like him to give stuff to a charity. I think the thing people are confused by your post is when someone leaves its because they dont feel for you anymore and its unlikely he would ever go out of his way to drive to a chairity and the thought of your items probably didnt even enter his brain. Thats why I think ppl might think you used it as a way to contact. Just trying to give insight
Dreamer100 Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Your brave. I couldn't bare to have my stuff binned or taken away
AHaze Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 So you're getting a boost because you've met yet ANOTHER guy (as stated in your previous thread)... so now all of a sudden you've lost all interest in the one you've been crying over for weeks - despite the fact you're carrying his baby :laugh: Hhaha I swear to god.. some women:confused::confused: .. Mind=blown.
forgetmenot75 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 Oh really...she's hanging out with someone else? How come?
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