I'm scared of breaking

[Fayella]

I don't know whether I can cope anymore, my ex boyfriend broke up with me and since then I've been up and down. I can't stop thinking about the many things he said to me when we broke up, I'm so confused because he said he told me he didn't want a relationship (he never told me that) but yet he continued to be in a relationship with me for a month or two, take me out for dinners and have sex with me. What really hurts the most is he dumped me after sex whilst we were still in bed and I feel so much upset and anger over it. I'm just so hurt and confused even now that I let him treat me like that, I just feel so used and I'm constantly scared of bumping into him and bumping into the people we both know, I just feel so embarrassed.

 

I'm so scared of breaking and constantly feeling paranoid about being seen by him or by people we know, I just feel so angry at him and I just want to let it go, I don't want to feel this anger anymore. We haven't spoken in a while but it's still getting to me. =(

[forgetmenot75]

I don't understand why are feeling so embarrassed...Why are you scared of be seen by him or people you know? that makes no sense at all.

[Fayella]

In case the people we know say some something to me about us breaking up or if they make comments about what he's said because I wouldn't want to know. There's part of me that still longs for him and I know I'm not completely over him so seeing him or people we have connections to always makes me nervous.

[crazy1234]

I don't know whether I can cope anymore, my ex boyfriend broke up with me and since then I've been up and down. I can't stop thinking about the many things he said to me when we broke up, I'm so confused because he said he told me he didn't want a relationship (he never told me that) but yet he continued to be in a relationship with me for a month or two, take me out for dinners and have sex with me. What really hurts the most is he dumped me after sex whilst we were still in bed and I feel so much upset and anger over it. I'm just so hurt and confused even now that I let him treat me like that, I just feel so used and I'm constantly scared of bumping into him and bumping into the people we both know, I just feel so embarrassed.

 

I'm so scared of breaking and constantly feeling paranoid about being seen by him or by people we know, I just feel so angry at him and I just want to let it go, I don't want to feel this anger anymore. We haven't spoken in a while but it's still getting to me. =(

Take one thing at a time.I wont say that i dont understand how he could so something so harsh but i believe anything is possible and hence this.Needless to say that this person is clearly an ******* and heartless.I know all those feelings and they are terrible but take one thing at a time.I still have my bad days and good ones too.You must avoid places he could be.Make a complete different circle and when you'r strong enough to face him,slowly extend your friend circle.However you must practice everyday from now telling yourself that it doesnt matter what he is upto anymore because you'r never going to be with this ******* ever again.Stay away from his updates and spend time with someone you feel very close to.Hang in there dear,we are all here at all times.

[Fayella]

Thanks crazy1234, I'll take one thing and one day at a time and I definitely will need to extend my friendship circle and focus more on my friends and myself more than ever. Thank you, I will (:

[reddragon588]

If you're looking to expand your friend circle, may I suggest Meetup.com. I've met some cool people and done some fun activities using this website. It has helped me, as my whole social life revolved around my ex at the time of our breakup so it was difficult for me socially. I think it would be helpful for you as well.