candie13 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 So I broke up with my ex of 8 months. I did half the typical mistakes: kept in touch, after the break up, talked, messages, cried, talked some more, wrote emails, everything to let all the hurt I had inside out. I have no intention of getting back with my ex and I am simply trying to make the road out as easy as possible. Of course, I am making progress and then there are the regressions. Some days are better than others. But generally, ever since I accepted that no way in hell am I ever going to have him back, I feel... at peace, but also sad. I seem to be soaking in sadness. I realize that there were clear signs and I also realize that it could have gone either way. I understand that I have no power over him and that ... things are what they are. I sometimes feel angry over him making me waste my time, when he knew he wasn't ready. Over myself for believing him. And most importantly, I feel angry at myself for not having left earlier. Had I left earlier, I would have not have to face all this **** now. I would have done it months ago. So, yeah, I am trying to keep busy, occasionally seeing friends. Doing things. The evenings are the worst, because I have time to think. Dating right now seems out of the question - like I have never ever looked less in my life. And I have guys tripping over themselves, asking me out. It appears to be great to just see another apparently normal human being, talking, cracking jokes and having a drink. Is it a good idea? I'm thinking that randomly going out with guys - every once in a while, like a date every two weeks, if I am being asked - looks harmless. And will also help me move on quicker. It's just that... I don't know. Any ideas, suggestions? For the moment, I am not even going out that much - and realized that socializing helps me a lot. It's like a breeze of fresh air. Any ideas, let me know... I hate that bloody sadness that surrounds me like a n oversizes cape, from head to toes. Pfff, I hate this period of time, until I get better !!!
Philosoraptor Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 If socializing helps, then stick with that. Instead of dates why not join a meetup group and find a hobby or something out that you enjoy. Not only will you get out and meet new people, there won't be the pressure of it being a date or anything. 1
Author candie13 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 there are no meetup groups here and my hobbies keep me by myself - except for yoga, which is me and a bunch of ladies, showing off our flexibility.
NewPerspective93 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 It'll get better soon. I agree with Philosoraptor in how you should do something rather than dates because dates are just dates. What if they want to keep seeing you, would you be able to do that? Pick up a new hobby, make yourself busy because when you're bored and doing nothing, that's when the thoughts start to seep in. What about the gym? Cheers.
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