GreenEyes88 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I want to get the books, “text your ex back,” and, “ex-boyfriend recovery pro.” My problem is that my ex is angry with me. He’s even blocked me on facebook. I thought before I send the first text that they suggest in these books I should probably send an apology text. I sent it 3 weeks after the breakup, he never responded. It wasn't just a, “I’m sorry,” it took me days to decide how to say it and it was heartfelt. I’m just curious has anyone ever had an ex that was so angry they wouldn't talk to you and you got them to talk to you again? How did you do it?
mercuryshadow Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 (edited) I want to get the books, “text your ex back,” and, “ex-boyfriend recovery pro.” My problem is that my ex is angry with me. He’s even blocked me on facebook. I thought before I send the first text that they suggest in these books I should probably send an apology text. I sent it 3 weeks after the breakup, he never responded. It wasn't just a, “I’m sorry,” it took me days to decide how to say it and it was heartfelt. I’m just curious has anyone ever had an ex that was so angry they wouldn't talk to you and you got them to talk to you again? How did you do it? How long ago was the break up, and why do you wish to speak with him so badly? Your post leaves much detail to be desired. Also, if he blocked you, I'm sure it's for his own good reasons, and you should respect that, at least for now. Edited September 11, 2013 by mercuryshadow
Author GreenEyes88 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 We broke up Aug 11 I guess, never really said we were breaking up. But that’s the day I found out he cheated and we haven’t spoken since. He goes away on the weekends and turned out he had a weekend gf there. I understand now the reasons he wanted to find someone else. I’m not saying what he did was right, but I understand. I got angry at first and contacted the other girl and let her know about me. She said she thought she was the only one. Then I posted something online kinda bashing him. It was short; basically I referred to him as “my cheating ass boyfriend.” I took it down before apologizing. I figured, yeah he cheated, but I shouldn't have turned to public humiliation. I've forgiven him, and I don’t really want to hear about how stupid I’m being. I want him back, but a better relationship. I've been working on bettering myself, and I’m going back to school, which was what most of our problems stemmed from. We were together for 2 years.
candie13 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 you cannot change in 3 weeks. It takes a lot of time to change, if you really mean it. And he cannot change either. Truth is, no matter how impossible you'd make his life, there is no excuse for cheating and lying. To you and to that girl. A post with "cheating ass bf" is nothing but normal. Why you want him back? Hey, listen, maybe you feel very strongly about getting him back. Cool, your choice. But why don't you date other people in the mean time? Like men who will treat you better? I've never tried to get exes back, so I suck at stuff like that. Usually, when somebody is angry at you, that means that they care, that they are hurt. Expressing your understanding as to the hurt they are going through and not judging their feelings, but acting in a comforting way, that seems to work well. Just please, do not talk about the cheating part. that's so wrong on so many levels... 2
mercuryshadow Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I'm sorry you went through that... but I really don't see what you'd be gaining by getting him back, even if you could? A lying cheat? Why would you want that for yourself? No matter what the reason was for his infidelity, it's inexcusable. 1
Mariposa10 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 (edited) You should be the angry one, not him!!! You should be the one doing all the ignoring and blocking, not him!!! What's going on?! I know two years is a long time, but you need to think about what you're doing and what you want. Do you want to be with someone who cheats on you? If you guys were to get back together, would you want to be with someone who might cheat on you AGAIN? Go out with your friends, have some fun!! Just think about the message you're sending him.... Edited September 11, 2013 by Mariposa10
Author GreenEyes88 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 I want him back because those 2 years with him were the happiest of my life and I love him very much. I know I’m going to miss all his little quirks that make him unique. Sometimes I would go away with him on the weekends and it was so much fun, I imagined my life to always be like this. As of right now I can’t imagine myself with another guy. I did go on one date since; the guy treated me worse than any guy ever has. I know most guys aren't bad like that but, yeah, first date post breakup didn't go good. I haven’t told him I want to get back together, and I've only tried contacting him once. I want to take things slow. Right now I’m just looking for a positive response from him. I realize I should be the one angry. I hate being angry, it’s draining, and I just want to be happy. I’m always like that with everyone. I guess that’s a problem for me but I’m just someone who feels better when I let the anger go.
Mariposa10 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I want him back because those 2 years with him were the happiest of my life and I love him very much. I know I’m going to miss all his little quirks that make him unique. Sometimes I would go away with him on the weekends and it was so much fun, I imagined my life to always be like this. As of right now I can’t imagine myself with another guy. I did go on one date since; the guy treated me worse than any guy ever has. I know most guys aren't bad like that but, yeah, first date post breakup didn't go good. I haven’t told him I want to get back together, and I've only tried contacting him once. I want to take things slow. Right now I’m just looking for a positive response from him. I realize I should be the one angry. I hate being angry, it’s draining, and I just want to be happy. I’m always like that with everyone. I guess that’s a problem for me but I’m just someone who feels better when I let the anger go. This is supposed to be the way you should feel after being with someone for two years. I still can't go on a date with someone and my ex and I broke up months ago...I also often thought of his little quirks and missed them. I also couldn't imagine myself with another guy either... What I'm saying is that it's normal to feel the way you feel right now. My advice is to let things cool off. Wait until he contacts you and then you can decide to do whatever you want to do... that's up to you You should not be the one contacting him, he did something horrible, not you. Again, just keep in mind the message you're sending him. Good luck! And remember things do get better....
Author GreenEyes88 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Thanks guys for responding! I hadn't checked facebook in a week and I checked it today and he unblocked me. I'm still in nc because i just sent the apology text a week ago but its a step in the right direction!
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