legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I was doing so good. Now the tears are rolling. He just doesn't get it. Now says his wife is sending me an email on Facebook?? What the hell? Just go away!!!
maidai Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Block him, block her. Block every avenue that you can that they can contact you using. Try to stop the tears and take a deep breath. Go out even if its just for a breath of fresh air, grab a coffee or a sandwich, re focus then come home and start again. Dont wait for his wife to contact you out of curiosity just block her now before she does xx I think I have half of the UK blocked on my facebook now. Almost everyone he knows or has had contact with from birth lol. If its what it takes to protect myself I will! Big hug 3
Author legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Thank you, I got them blocked. 4
Calcmag Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Good for you getting them blocked. He will keep trying because he wants to keep things just as they are. And obviously you don't, because you know you deserve more . Just about the wife, has there already been a D Day? I don't recall reading about one in your earlier posts. Stay strong. Stay NC. I am a strong believer that if anyone breaks requested NC more than the default one time, they have no respect for the other person. (Been on the receiving end of this in my A and in another R). He knows you said you're done. Now continue to show him by your actions - NC -that you really are done. Thinking about you, I know how tough it is so early in the process when they stir up your emotions in this way. And so, I bet, does your exMM.
Author legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 No he doesn't get it. He said "I've been wanting to stop by. I keep thinking of you." I said no, please don't. He is kissing her butt. Saving a marriage that has been failing long before I came into the picture (or so he said). She knew nothing of the affair until now. Of course he is lying to her and telling her I was just an employee and nothing ever happened which is total BS! I just want to tell her everything but know it will only create unwanted drama for me.
Author legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 I told him to leave me alone and for her to do the same. He wants this crappy marriage so he can figure it out with her. Not my problem! She apparently recently found out about me. How I have no clue. So she used his FB account, pretended to be him and sent me a message trying to get me to respond. But he sent me the message prior telling me what she had planned. He wants to be with her but rats her out to me first. You think you're confused!?!?!
scatterd Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 He could be the one that sent the message and making you think the wife knows. I would think she would want to talk to you instead of e-mailing. He might be afraid you will tell her the truth their is no way of knowing with out talking to her.If she did find out she deserves to know who she really is married to. Remember she is being hurt also.
Calcmag Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 He could be the one that sent the message and making you think the wife knows. I would think she would want to talk to you instead of e-mailing. OP, this is a very good point and something to keep in mind. Way back during a low point in my A, I received several emails that were apparently from his BW. At the time I felt that they were from him, pretending to be her. I still have no clue what his motivation was, but I am sure that she did not write those emails. Could be the same thing here.
Author legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Oh I absolutely agree. When he told me she got a message that was something about cheating, my first words were how do I not know that you are making this all up?? If he really wants to lose everything I will happily tell her the whole story but I don't think he wants to go there. 1
scatterd Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 You know that they were good at convincing their wives they were being faithful so they think they can do the same to OW. Chances are now that your broke up their still covering their A--. The only way of knowing is hearing the other side.Believe only what you know to be true and block block block.
Author legalgirl Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 His last message said he wants to put this all to rest because he is beyond stressed. Hmm, sucks when the tables are turned huh??
Calcmag Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 His last message said he wants to put this all to rest because he is beyond stressed. Hmm, sucks when the tables are turned huh?? It's all part of the script. He will more than likely try to come back around in time. He's making me angry on your behalf! 2
scatterd Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Yes it sucks being heart broken but time heals all. We all are here to learn but why does it have to be so hard. One day you will look back at this and you will not hurt. Their is a man that will give his all, crumbs never are fulfilling. Big Hugs 2
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