Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Dear everyone, my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me on the 1st of October. He said he could not see a future for us and that he did not want to string me along until he knew what he wanted. Well for the first two weeks he kept saying that he still loved me and missed me and asked for a second chance. When I gave him one he changed his mind and said that he needed more time to figure out what he really wanted. He kept on contacting me practically daily via sms or email. Until a week ago. We met last friday and I thought we had a good time, but have not heard a word from him since. Somehow I think that he found someone new, but I hope not. Anyway, for months we had been planning to go away on vacation this week. Now the vacation is here, but we are not together anymore. I decided to go away by myself and try to have some fun, instead of staying at home feeling lonely and missing him. Does anyone have any idea where I could go by myself for about a week? Should be a place where you can go by youself as a woman without getting harassed, where there are not too many happy couples and where there are museums or other things to see, especially in this current bad weather. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and went away alone on vacation? Any tips? My whole story is on the Second Chances thread (still hoped we could back together) and I would love for you to read it and give me your input. Always love to get some advice or encouraging words.
Queen B Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Don't know where you live but I say I say buy a ton of books, go to a spa/resort not too far away and get the works and relax!!! Massage, facial, seaweed wrap, new hair style, highlights...all work for me as a nice treat. It seems to me that espcially when your sad and lonely, there are happy couples everywhere!!! Damn those happy couples!!!
cleoelliptical Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 In the same boat with ya as of this week. Go to Egypt: http://www.friendlyplanet.com/pyramids-express-egypt-tour.asp or better yet, Thailand: http://www.friendlyplanet.com/thailand.html Both super great deals. And if cost is a factor, go to Montreal...great party town, young Canadians and tourists alike. Screw that guy, he's stringing you along. Don't mean to be harsh, but he sounds like a buttmunch. If he can't see what a wonderful, amazing person you are, drop him...I know for a fact you can probably do so much stinkin better!!! For all the women out there with crap for boyfriends, kick them to the curb!!!!!
Author Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Dear girls, thanks a lot for your advice. Queen B: About the spa, one of the things we spoke about doing was to go away for a weekend to a spa, so I cant do that right now, just would remind me too much of my ex, but otherwise it sure would be great. Do you have another idea? Cleo: Thanks for your encouraging words. Sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. How do you know that he is a 'buttmunch'? Did you read my other posts? Or could you gather that from the little info I gave on here? I dont really think that he is bad, just does not love me anymore. But is sure makes me feel better if I think that I can do so much better than him! Thanks for the tips, problem is I have been to Thailand twice this year, last time just this August, so dont really want to go again so soon, plus while there I was constantly in contact with him, so dont want to conjure up sweet memories. About Egypt, been there once with a friend, and did not like all the attention I got as a woman by myself. I know I am picky, sorry! That's why I am posting on here. How did you know that I am thinking about going to Montreal? Did I post that somewhere or could you read my mind? So Montreal is not too expensive? The weather right now is rather crappy, is it still fun? If anyone has other suggestions, would love to hear them. Am only leaving on tuesday as I still have an exam at university on monday. Thanks for help!
cleoelliptical Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 No didn't know about you considering Montreal...it's just a fun place. One more place I love, love, love; San Diego! And yes, he is a buttmunch
moimeme Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Lots of tour companies run singles' tours or you could just take a tour of some sort. You meet people and you don't have to make any arrangements for hotels or anything. You just park yourself on the bus and visit with people while you travel and then get ferried around to the sights when you arrive.
Queen B Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Oops! How do I always know the exact WRONG thing to say...haha! I go to Montreal at LEAST once a year...and I LOVE it!!! I've been there alone, single and with a guy and I have to say it's fun no matter what! http://www.tourisme-montreal.org/B2C/00/default.asp The weather is always crappy there..too hot and humid in the summer lots of snow in the winter...but either way It's a GREAT town with TONS to do culturally and socially....lots of museums, lots of shops. There's also a great male strip club...among all the female ones on Saint catherines...go - you'll laugh your ASS off!
zara Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Come to England - the weather is cold and miserable right now - the perfect place to be after you've been dumped! In fact, you could pay a visit to Manchester and pay homage to Morrisey and The Smiths: every lonely boy or girl's musical chicken soup! However, if wallowing in your own misery isn't your thing (although i can highly recommend it!), why not try Barcelona - weather is still nice, around 18 degrees and sunny, lots of culture, great shopping, so much to see and do you won't notice that you are on your own. Alternatively Athens and Madrid are also warm and sunny with plenty to see and do for the lone traveller.
Author Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Thank you all for your suggestions, keep them coming! Dear Zara, you just brought tears to my eyes and I am sure you had no idea, when you suggested England. England, well, this is where my ex and I met and where we lived together for nearly one year, before he followed me to the continent a year ago. You replied to my original post when I first wrote about the whole mess of this relationship, and you told me to let him go and that it was over. Back then I did not want to believe you, but now, a week after I last heard from him, I guess I have no other choice. So England is off, but the other suggestions are great, thank you. Dear Queen B, you did not say the wrong thing at all, just mentioned something that I would normally love to do. Montreal sounds like a great idea, and I think I might go for it. Never been to Canada before and have not planned to go there with him in the near future. I also like the idea of the organised tour, but as I think it is pretty much last minute, I think that I will do that some other time. Love San Diego too, been there 3 years ago and had a really great time. Feeling really sad and lonely now, and cant believe that I have not heard from him. Wish I could leave already tomorrow. Thanks for all your posts!
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 amsterdam...have you been there? i here it is quite fun and not too expensive. that is where i would go!
tokyo Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 I simply love Barcelona and I like Spain in general. Valencia is also quite nice, it´s on the Mediterranean sea as Barcelona and the wheather in winter is so mild and the sun is shining And the guys are so cute Granada is also worth a visit, the Alhambra is fantastic, but maybe you want to save it for spring, when the flowers blossom the gardens are wonderful. I would also try Portugal, I´ve never been there, but it must be a bit like Spain, I guess. Egypt is a bad idea if you want a peaceful and quiet trip, even if you are not a woman, people will still approach you.
Author Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Hi, all you sweet people. Dried my eyes and feeling a bit more composed now. Unfortunately I have been to Amsterdam, and WITH my ex, and always spoke with my ex about going to Spain or Portugal. This is really bad, I feel like most places on this earth I cant go to, because either I have been there with him, or we had planned to go there together. We both love to travel and have been to all continents except Australia together, had planned to go there now. Wow, here come the tears! Sorry for making this really difficult for you guys. I really appreciate your suggestions.
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 gottaBe~ you are just too well traveled! what about New Zeland? i knew someone that moved there and is absolutly in love withe country. or south africa. it will be ok.
Author Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 South Africa.... that's where he is from originally. Sorry. New Zealand would be great, but I only have about a week and that is too far away from Europe to go for only a few days. I know, I have just been to too many places. I am starting to think that maybe I should just stay home and lock myself into my apartment, but I guess that would not be so smart, what do you think?
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 no, do not stay home. if anything spend the night or two in a posh suite at a nice hotel, and get some spa treatments........ but do not stay home, it's a waste of good vacation time!
Stone Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Go on a Cruise, it's affordable, food is free ect. Lots of activities ect. I just got back from one last week I went with a friend and it was crawling with men ( almost to the point where it was highly annoying and we got violent) but we are crazy nut jobs. No Really there are all sorts of people on them single men, single chicks, faimlies, alot of corporare meetings, alot of singles activities ect. and it is even relaxing if you go alone. I ditched my friend for a day and it was the best day I had there. It is such a social enviorment the employees schedule all sorts of activities to meet people and you even meet new friends at dinner. Trust me take a cruise you will have a blast.
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Originally posted by tiki What about New York City? New York City!!!!?? Get a rope. hahahahahahaha
SoleMate Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. I went there solo for two weeks in 2002 and had a fantastic time. Lots of activities, shopping, and it is NOT a "couples' destination".
tokyo Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 I´d love to see the new European countries. They must be fantastic. Iceland is also supposed to be very nice. Personally I find these places a bit too cold to travel now, but if you don´t mind the cold.
Stone Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Alaska is beautiful, and it's not snowing now, Florida is always a good place to go it's 95 degrees here and the beaches are sunny has hell. plus there is alot to do, Beahces, Jet Skis, Paracailing, boating, disney World, SeaWorld, Universal Studios, Key WEst ( yea baby!!) what do you like to do when you are on vacation?
Author Gottabestrong Posted November 19, 2004 Author Posted November 19, 2004 Wow, you guys are amazing! Thanks for all the great suggestions, you really made me see that there are some places out there, that I have not seen yet, and that dont have a connection to my ex. So I have decided to go away after all, cant waste my hard-earned vacation. Okay, lets see: Cruise, sounds great, but I guess it would be too late to organise that now, like 2 days in advance. New York City, I love it, but it is rather expensive. And even though I have been there a few times already, I think there is always so much to see. Why do you think that NY would be a bad idea, tattoomytoe? The only negative aspect I can think of right now is the price of hotels. Never been there on my own though, so maybe then it would be different. San Miguel de Allende... wow, that sounds really interesting, will look into it. Thanks a lot for the tip. I would love to see Iceland, but I will wait for summer to do that. The other European countries, I have seen most of them already, live right in the middle of the continent. Florida would surely be cool, is not it rather expensive down there, though? What do I like to do on a vacation? Go to the beach, do some sightseeing, walk through the center of town,... I love Washington, D.C. and all its museums and galleries. That's another city I am considering going to, there are always loads of new things to visit. Thank you all once more, you really gave me a long nice list of destinations to choose from. And I am feeling much better now than a short while ago. Keep all the good ideas coming!
on the edge Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 ...haven't had the luxury of traveling much, but i really loved new orleans! my daughter and i are supposed to go to the big island hawaii next june for two weeks! anyone been there?!
Stone Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Florida is NOT NOT NOT expensive at all especially now it's our season so all the hotels are in competition with eachother, you can get a walt disney resort hotel for less than 80 a night. Plus everyone is putting out deals due to lost money from hurricane season, and I'll be your tour guide haha call a cruise line and see if you can get a last minute one booked, I think it's the cheapest vacation possible. I went to the bahamma's last week to Nassau it's AMAZING!! I swam withthe dolphins for 75 bucks for 3 hours it was great. and there is nothing like a Bahamma Breeze, you get tan has heck and you can't even feel the hear due to the nice breeze
tattoomytoe Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Why do you think that NY would be a bad idea, tattoomytoe? The only negative aspect I can think of right now is the price of hotels. Never been there on my own though, so maybe then it would be different. no it was a commercial for salsa. they are like "this stuff was made in new york city!" "new york City!??" "Get a rope!"
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