ON NC with EX , Doesnt want to move on to someone new ..

[crazybestie101]

So NC is still on but i kinda start missing my EX like every moment. Reason being that randomly 2 months ago i met one guy , we didnt interact much but on facebook once in while. Havent actually met his in person , just randomly became FB buddies lol . Now we talk almost everyday , and that too most stupidest things in world , we would imagine what it would be like to work in same place ( he lives in another state) . All sorta random stuff. One way or other he expressed that he want to meet me in future. From all this people around me thinks that he is INTO me and has crush on me. I TOTALLY dont want to believe it because i still miss my EX and so want to get back together with him . Everyday after i am done speaking to this new guy just as a friends , i feel how this guy is different than my EX and things can never be soo good and fun with this new guy. Weird enough sometimes i feel like i am cheating my ex by talking to this new guy. I think I should just do my things rather than looking around if i want to get back together my ex.. So stuck here .. In midst of all this , i feel like i want to reach out to my EX and let him know how after meeting this new guy i realized about lots of things such as my love for my ex. ..

 

Please dont be harsh ..i need some advice.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

So NC is still on but i kinda start missing my EX like every moment. Reason being that randomly 2 months ago i met one guy , we didnt interact much but on facebook once in while. Havent actually met his in person , just randomly became FB buddies lol . Now we talk almost everyday , and that too most stupidest things in world , we would imagine what it would be like to work in same place ( he lives in another state) . All sorta random stuff. One way or other he expressed that he want to meet me in future. From all this people around me thinks that he is INTO me and has crush on me. I TOTALLY dont want to believe it because i still miss my EX and so want to get back together with him . Everyday after i am done speaking to this new guy just as a friends , i feel how this guy is different than my EX and things can never be soo good and fun with this new guy. Weird enough sometimes i feel like i am cheating my ex by talking to this new guy. I think I should just do my things rather than looking around if i want to get back together my ex.. So stuck here .. In midst of all this , i feel like i want to reach out to my EX and let him know how after meeting this new guy i realized about lots of things such as my love for my ex. ..

 

Please dont be harsh ..i need some advice.

 

Why did you create a new thread for this? You already said it in another one of your threads....please dont do that.

 

I'm not trying to be harsh, but your Ex doesnt want you anymore. Thats it. Done. Over. It really doesnt matter if you want to BE with him if he doesnt want to be with you. A lot of people WANT to be with their Ex on here, but if they dont want you, it doesnt matter.

 

This other person is just a stop gap to try and get past this feeling of being lonely. Its not fair to you and DEFIANTLY not him to get involved with him.

 

Learn to accept this because what you are doing is unhealthy.

[hotpotato]

You are comparing the new guy to your ex, meaning you are not ready to date yet.

 

Please leave the new guy alone. You will only hurt him.

 

I'm sorry, but as a dumpee you have very little power to get your ex back. You need to remain in NC, and reaching out to them feeds their egoes.