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After just 2.5 months the guy I was seeing and currently work with dumped me last night. He had always been low and recently distant. In the get month it was great, he said he could see himself falling in love with me, that is we're going so e where, and while we are different - he is introspective, alternative, writes poetry, plays music, smokes, does drugs - I am outdoorsy and fit and generally active....I thought we really liked each other.

 

Then we had an argument, he said he though relationships can't last longer than 3 years (all his have ended after 3. We are late 20s). I said I needed to be with someone who wasn't cynical, who hoped.. He said I wasn't giving him credit. Then I was putting pressure on him to be happy. I wasn't. The finally, last night he tells me he would only be a disappointment to me. That he already feels like he is disappointing me even though I haven't demanded anything of him. That he has nothing to give me.

 

This sucks so much, I feel like a brick wall has hit me. My ego too, but mostly my heart. I know the truth is we aren't right for each other as those are crap reasons.

 

I'm just feeling lost- I entered another world with him, deeper, I read more literature, I tried new things- as he did with me - but never felt really close. He once said he had my back when I might've been sick, waiting for some test results.

 

I know all this is normal stuff. It's just heartbreaking. Have you guys dated someone different, hope it would work out?

 

He's all normal at work and extra nice to me, but hes upbeat and I don't know if he is even down, or just using his on off depression as an excuse to dump me.

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Better to get rid of him earlier than later. He is using a cop out and quitting rather than taking any self responsibility. He's a coward.

 

You clearly were not happy with him or his mentality. Be thankful it was only 2.5 months and not years. You can take these new hobbies you've learned and make them part of you, no reason to be lost. You are still who you were 2.5 months ago, except you're a little smarter and have a little more experience.

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