blackey Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 So I have been broken up with a man for four months, we broke up because of long distance although he's been weirdly cold so who knows. I am fairly certain that it wasn't for another girl. Anyhow, a couple weeks ago I asked him why he had to act cold and mad at me, saying that I thought we broke up because of distance and not because we hated each other. I said he was important to me and I would just like to make peace. This was two weeks ago, and I only just now got a response saying that he's "glad that I'm doing well. Yes things ended negatively but there's nothing to be done about it now really". That's it. Uh, ok? I already got from his profound silence that he didn't want anything to do with me and gave up on hearing from him, why bother even sending that? It just seemed like a completely unconstructive and pointless thing to say. Why would he do that? I still have feelings for him and was trying to patch things up a bit so at least we were amicable, but I'm not really sure what to make of that behaviour. Is he just messing with me, or expecting something from me? I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like I should probably just ignore it, although I really would like to engage him in some kind of dialogue.
reddragon588 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I still have feelings for him and was trying to patch things up a bit so at least we were amicable, but I'm not really sure what to make of that behaviour. Is he just messing with me, or expecting something from me? I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like I should probably just ignore it, although I really would like to engage him in some kind of dialogue. Are you really trying to patch things up or do you have ulterior motives? You have to ask yourself that. Why did he respond? Honestly, I'm not sure. It definitely seems odd- why wait two weeks? But you can't bother yourself with it. You need to focus on yourself and what you need, not bother yourself with what his motives are. And you need to not respond. Look at what kind of reaction his response brought- do you want that again or do you want to move on? Keep strong and don't respond! You can do it!
forgetmenot75 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 So I have been broken up with a man for four months, we broke up because of long distance although he's been weirdly cold so who knows. I am fairly certain that it wasn't for another girl. Anyhow, a couple weeks ago I asked him why he had to act cold and mad at me, saying that I thought we broke up because of distance and not because we hated each other. I said he was important to me and I would just like to make peace. This was two weeks ago, and I only just now got a response saying that he's "glad that I'm doing well. Yes things ended negatively but there's nothing to be done about it now really". That's it. Uh, ok? I already got from his profound silence that he didn't want anything to do with me and gave up on hearing from him, why bother even sending that? It just seemed like a completely unconstructive and pointless thing to say. Why would he do that? I still have feelings for him and was trying to patch things up a bit so at least we were amicable, but I'm not really sure what to make of that behaviour. Is he just messing with me, or expecting something from me? I'm not really sure how to proceed. I feel like I should probably just ignore it, although I really would like to engage him in some kind of dialogue. Nah, he's not trying to mess with you at all. more clear, impossible. I guess he waited that long because he didn't know how to tell you he doesn't want you anymore. He's been brave, though. some men just disappear. Thank him that he gave you some closure. Whether you ignore him or not, he doesn't care. Do the no contact for yourself. He's not into you anymore.
Author blackey Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 No I don't think he's being brave, I think he's just being a weirdo. As to ulterior motive, I don't know. I'm not really even sure why I contacted him. I guess because I still care. Maybe my ego just doesn't understand how he went from hot to cold so fast.
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