ltjg45 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Well, going to need some advice on how to handle this mess that I'm in. As some of you know, I managed to finally get my 2nd job a couple of months ago at a Wal-Mart. The pay is better than I expected (even for an overnight person like me) and I can see me changing my life for the better in a short period of time. Unfortunately, that is where the good parts come to an end because, apparently, my ability to be able to help another in need may backfire on me severely. On 2 different occasions, I have loaned a total of $60 to an employee and friend who started the same day I did. She came from another country and has a boyfriend who also speaks her native language. She is 21. The first time I loaned money to her, it was $20 due to her vehicle being out of gas. The 2nd time I loaned money to her was on my next paycheck where I loaned her $40 due to her needing it for rent. That's fine. I trusted her on that note and nothing more so I loaned it to her. The past 2 paychecks, she couldn't pay it back to me due to issues with her family, which I can understand since I'm going through the exact same thing here with my mother pestering me to spend my extra cash on unnecessary crap. We both agreed that she needs to give it back to me this upcoming paycheck so we can move on. Also, due to this, she wanted to move out and we both talked about getting a 2-bedroom apartment together and split the rent since her boyfriend wasn't capable of helping her. Why is this important? Well, in my department, there is some employees that was concerned about how nice and soft I generally am and was worried if I'm being taken advantage of. Everyone in question is female except for one "player"-like guy who is married at the age of 23 but he only works during the weekends. At least 3 of them has told me that they can't trust her whatsoever and has told me to make it a priority to get the money back for the past month. I have yet to get it back. They was so concerned to the point where they are willing to mention it to management if that is what it takes. That last line concerns me greatly. I understand the economy I'm dealing with right now. Especially in my situation, jobs is not easy to get anymore especially semi-decent ones. I don't want to see anyone losing their jobs over something as minor as this and I definitely don't want to lose mine because of this either. While I would love to get the money back, I'm not interested in giving the managers there any fuel to terminate me instead. It's not like they need any to begin with but once you give them a reason to, they will typically run with it. It has really came full circle when one employee told me that she has let Personnel know about this and they aren't too happy about it either. Great. Now someone above me know. I texted her tonight to let her know and she basically went off on me as a result. I don't know what else to expect after this but it can get ugly and fast and, if that is the case, someone is bound to get fired if they have to go that far. I need some advice concerning this. What should I do?
Author ltjg45 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 At this point, I have no objections to letting it go just so this madness can come to an end. The problem was that the 3 female employees in my department didn't want to let it go. I really don't know how women operate. One of those 3 hated her so much to the point that she would fight her if she wasn't concerned with jail time as a result and I'm like, "Why? It's just $60." So I was annoyed when I find out she pushed the issue to Personnel esp. since I have no desire to do it myself and I was the one who loaned out the money. *sigh* So, in a way, I wasn't expecting it back but ever since they found out, they wanted me to get it back on principle alone.
gaius Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I really don't know how women operate. One of those 3 hated her so much to the point that she would fight her if she wasn't concerned with jail time as a result and I'm like, "Why? It's just $60." So I was annoyed when I find out she pushed the issue to Personnel esp. since I have no desire to do it myself and I was the one who loaned out the money. She must be hot or attention getting if shes got you loaning money and the rest of the women gunning for her. I think the only thing you can really do is chalk it up as a learning experience. If you dont want to risk the potential hit with management then forgive the debt and start telling everyone it was a gift. And whatever you do dont **** where you eat and loan a coworker money again. Attractive or not. I think we've all been there at some point though dude.
CC12 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 At this point, I have no objections to letting it go just so this madness can come to an end. The problem was that the 3 female employees in my department didn't want to let it go. I can't imagine management wanting to get involved over a $60 personal loan. Is it against company policy, or something? I doubt they would say anything about the loan itself, but if they do, I think you should apologize that it was even brought to their attention and that you never intended for your coworker to make an issue of it and that you're trying to handle the issue yourself. I wouldn't worry too much about it, though. "They weren't happy" can mean a lot of things, especially coming from a coworker with an axe to grind. Maybe they weren't happy that she bothered them with this nonsense. A couple more things: You made a mistake in talking to your coworkers about the loan. It's better to keep these things to yourself so no one gets embarrassed about being poor and broke. Also, moving in with this girl would be another, larger mistake. She already has debts that she can't pay. Her family and money troubles aren't going to go away any time soon. As her roommate, I bet you'd end up lending her a lot of money, because you seem like a nice person who likes helping people even at at your own expense. Be very careful with that.
almond Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 (edited) they wanted me to get it back on principle alone. Who cares what they want? They have their own motivations, and it has nothing to do with you getting your money back. This is between you and a friend of yours. Tell them to mind their own business, and I wouldn't leak any info to them regarding this girl in future. You made a mistake in talking to your coworkers about the loan. It's better to keep these things to yourself so no one gets embarrassed about being poor and broke. Yes, this. You've told at least three other employees about this, and at least one hates this girl. I can't imagine why you felt the need to mention it to them? I can see why she went off at you when you told her that she's been reported to management! Perhaps an apology is in order? Things like loans between friends due to hardship should not become a point of gossip. You will avoid trouble in future if you keep information such as this restricted to the persons involved only. If I were you, I'd tell everyone that she's paid you back, including management. Advise them that there was no issue, and that it was blown out of proportion by the girl that reported her. Make it clear that you are not filing any sort of complaint. I'd then apologise to this girl for telling others about your arrangement, and hopefully patch things up. Edited September 11, 2013 by almond
Author ltjg45 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 She must be hot or attention getting if shes got you loaning money and the rest of the women gunning for her. I think the only thing you can really do is chalk it up as a learning experience. If you dont want to risk the potential hit with management then forgive the debt and start telling everyone it was a gift. And whatever you do dont **** where you eat and loan a coworker money again. Attractive or not. I think we've all been there at some point though dude. She's OKish-looking and, while I do have interest in her, that wasn't the reason why I loaned her the money. Not to mention she has a boyfriend so that's another reason why I didn't use that as an reason to loan it to her because it is clear she is unavailable. Even then, she did consider me as a friend and you could say I ****ed it all up. I can't imagine management wanting to get involved over a $60 personal loan. Is it against company policy, or something? I doubt they would say anything about the loan itself, but if they do, I think you should apologize that it was even brought to their attention and that you never intended for your coworker to make an issue of it and that you're trying to handle the issue yourself. I can't imagine it either but I don't know what the management at that store is willing to deal with or not. I guess I will find out in some way this upcoming Thursday night, if the issue comes up, that is. I wouldn't worry too much about it, though. "They weren't happy" can mean a lot of things, especially coming from a coworker with an axe to grind. Maybe they weren't happy that she bothered them with this nonsense. I certainly hope not. I do know there is a few managers there that has no issues firing employees on small issues and very quickly so I can see something like this ending someone's employment fast. Since I am at the middle of the entire mess, I can easily see them aiming at me in some point now that it has been brought to their attention. A couple more things: You made a mistake in talking to your coworkers about the loan. It's better to keep these things to yourself so no one gets embarrassed about being poor and broke. Also, moving in with this girl would be another, larger mistake. She already has debts that she can't pay. Her family and money troubles aren't going to go away any time soon. As her roommate, I bet you'd end up lending her a lot of money, because you seem like a nice person who likes helping people even at at your own expense. Be very careful with that. Yeah, I know. I apologized to her about it last night and she seems like she is too angry to consider it. I'm not sure how she will handle this mess and that is what worries me especially with the heated issue with 1 of the 3 employees having an massive issue with the one I loaned the money to. Who cares what they want? They have their own motivations, and it has nothing to do with you getting your money back. This is between you and a friend of yours. Tell them to mind their own business, and I wouldn't leak any info to them regarding this girl in future. I doubt that chance will happen again......perhaps for the best, of course. Yes, this. You've told at least three other employees about this, and at least one hates this girl. I can't imagine why you felt the need to mention it to them? I can see why she went off at you when you told her that she's been reported to management! Perhaps an apology is in order? Things like loans between friends due to hardship should not become a point of gossip. You will avoid trouble in future if you keep information such as this restricted to the persons involved only. If I were you, I'd tell everyone that she's paid you back, including management. Advise them that there was no issue, and that it was blown out of proportion by the girl that reported her. Make it clear that you are not filing any sort of complaint. I'd then apologise to this girl for telling others about your arrangement, and hopefully patch things up. I already did apologize back to the girl for this mess. I'm not sure if she is willing to accept it. Regardless if she does accept it or not, there is no point to try and fix things up concerning her feelings. I can't do any more especially since she has a boyfriend. Where is he in all of this mess? The only thing I can do now is fix the rest of this mess and hope it doesn't get any worse.
pteromom Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 1. Don't worry about the $60. If you get it back, great. But I wouldn't expect it. 2. Don't loan her any more money. 3. ABSOLUTELY do not agree to share an apartment with someone who is showing you that she isn't responsible with money. That's a recipe for disaster!!!! 4. You can't control what your co-workers do, but you can learn the lesson to never give anyone information they can use against you. All you can do is ask them to please not mention it to anyone else, or tell them the $60 was a gift, and hope they respect your wishes. 1
Keenly Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Tell people to stay the hell out of your business. Go to management? Really? Over some one ELSE's personal financial business? Is this like wal mart for 3rd graders?
Author ltjg45 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Tell people to stay the hell out of your business. Go to management? Really? Over some one ELSE's personal financial business? Is this like wal mart for 3rd graders? I been there for a little longer than 2 months and I felt like there is more drama going on now than what I seen with the Target down the street that I worked at for 1.5 years. This is one of those issues. There is many more that I literally just put my head down or I face-palm myself in front of customers. At times, even the customers agree with my own reactions.
Author ltjg45 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 4. You can't control what your co-workers do, but you can learn the lesson to never give anyone information they can use against you. All you can do is ask them to please not mention it to anyone else, or tell them the $60 was a gift, and hope they respect your wishes. No kidding. I should have kept my big mouth shut period and not say anything to anyone there. Another reason why I have a hard time trusting anyone at all these days. Even saying the minor of things is enough to get you in hot water.
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