bob the brave Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 She dumped me for another guy. They had sex and she pretty much dissed me. Now, she comes back hurt, saying she made a mistake and wanting to get together. No matter how I feel, isn't true that in general such a relationship could never work? In general won't the dumped always mistrust and and the dumper disrespect?
CptSaveAho Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 Tell her to pound sand You already know the answers to the questions you asked 3
cheercap95 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I personally think every situations is different. But if a guy did that to me? No i would not take him back. And i would have no respect for any man who would take me back after that, if the events unfolded exactly how you said they did. Leave her alone shes not worth it. Or better yet show her what it feels like to be used.
Jbum5 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 For your particular situation the answer is no. And you have to be boisterous about it otherwise you'll end up being a donkey that has a bison's penis up its posterior - in other words, it's going to hurt.
soccerrprp Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I agree with others. In YOUR case, it's a no go. She dissed you big-time and is a sign of things to come. But, second chances DO happen...
bubbaganoosh Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 I was married twice and divorced twice. Both of my wives cheated on me but I didn't find out until after we were divorced so the cheating didn't bother me as much as it would if I found out while married. None the less it's still a blow my ego if you will. After that, I have remained single for 21 years with no intentions of marrying again. Reason #1, I'm old. 65. Reason#2. I have a hard time trusting and for good reason I might add. But if I would have caught wife #1 or 2 cheating, there would be no R. Cheating is a deal breaker. I never cheated because I knew it was wrong and that kind of pain is so hard to deal with. It's the kind of pain that keeps on giving and has a habit of popping up when you least expect it.
heartshaped Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 They had sex and he pretty much dissed her. Now, she comes back hurt, saying she made a mistake and wanting to get together. Fixed it for ya.
Leigh 87 Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 She dumped me for another guy. They had sex and she pretty much dissed me. Now, she comes back hurt, saying she made a mistake and wanting to get together. No matter how I feel, isn't true that in general such a relationship could never work? In general won't the dumped always mistrust and and the dumper disrespect? How about " don't be a doormat" as a good rule?
Author bob the brave Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Bubba, so sorry you had to endure that, especially when you did the right thing and seem a stand up guy. So many people fail to appriciate that. Hope you have found peace and happiness. I was married twice and divorced twice. Both of my wives cheated on me but I didn't find out until after we were divorced so the cheating didn't bother me as much as it would if I found out while married. None the less it's still a blow my ego if you will. After that, I have remained single for 21 years with no intentions of marrying again. Reason #1, I'm old. 65. Reason#2. I have a hard time trusting and for good reason I might add. But if I would have caught wife #1 or 2 cheating, there would be no R. Cheating is a deal breaker. I never cheated because I knew it was wrong and that kind of pain is so hard to deal with. It's the kind of pain that keeps on giving and has a habit of popping up when you least expect it.
gaius Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 There seem to be couples around here that make it work after the woman grossly disrespects the guy, but I always get the impression shes with him because she got burned and is afraid to venture out again and try for something she wants more. Whether thats a dynamic you like or not is up to you.
BradJacobs Posted September 11, 2013 Posted September 11, 2013 One bite of the apple is all I ever allow. If you're always looking over your shoulder at your past, how do you ever move forward?
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