Someone me make the right decision in this relationship!

[sweetgirl91]

So my boyfriend an i have been on and off in the past and now we are a stable couple of 11 months but everything is still the same i see him about once a week and its not enough for me ive talked to him about it but he has only ocassionally made an extra day for me so its sometimes i see him 2 times a week but its not enough for me i would be happy with whenever we are free to see eachother be it early in the day or at night it doesnt matter but i see no effort and he has recently lost his temporaary job and things have gotten a little harder i find my self putting more effort dont get me wrong he does what he can and does put effort but i still only find that even with a job his words were never really backed up by his actions now that ive been noticing him a little distant god knows why?? i feel like im starting to question his love for me .... and sometimes im with him and my tears role down my cheek i honestly dont know what feeling this is ?when i feel this way i also find him being very affectionate to me as though he knows or something its like a gut feeling mixed with emotions of sadness ...ii always manage to smile and try not think about everything but i cant do this anymore and when im away from him i tear up with just the thought of him i feel like i feel like i need to let him go but i cant and yes hes my first love / both sexual and emotional ....

i love him to death but i feel i am not the person he needs can someone help me please i hate this feeling of sadness

[todreaminblue]

crying and you dont know the reason why you are sounds ...sounds like more than just pure sadness.....tears out of the blue...normally mean you are there ....blue

 

 

my username is todreaminblue...because my sadness extends to my dreams...i have woken up and my face is wet with tears..and sometimes i have no recollection of what i was dreaming about...i cry out of the blue also, because i pen up my emotions and when i am overwhelmed with emotions from myself or others,the pen doesnt hold anymore and spills out of my eyes....thats what i think anyway.... .....i cant control the tears from coming....they just do ...and i really dont want them too..i am a tad empathic

 

i also have clinical depression....

 

you place a lot of importance on this guy you are with ...when you are away from him can you tell me what thoughts you are having.....

crying with the thought of him

...can you explain this for me...i will try and help you if I can ........(((hugs)))...deb Edited September 10, 2013 by todreaminblue

[sweetgirl91]

i just feel like im not what he needs even though he says he loves me to death and that he soon might find someone he does feel the strong desire to want to be with that person often i also find him a little distant which hurts even more

[CherryT]

I need a little more information. You're in the long distance relationship section... your boyfriend see's you at least once a week. What is the distance? How long does it take to get to you? Is he the only one driving?

 

Many of us here cannot just drive to our SO. We have to plan and usually buy a plane ticket. Are you in school? Do you have any other hobbies outside of your boyfriend? If it's out of his control (i.e. he lost his job and it takes gas money to get to you) it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It means he can't afford to always see you, even though he wants to.

[justwhoiam]

he says he loves me to death and that he soon might find someone he does feel the strong desire to want to be with that person often

Something's very wrong with that. I really don't get it.

 

Did he really say that in the same sentence? I love you to death but soon I'll find someone I want to be with all the time?

[sweetgirl91]

no he didnt say that he just says he loves me to death but i felt like that

[CherryT]

no he didnt say that he just says he loves me to death but i felt like that

 

Don't let your insecurities create situations that are not reality in your life.

[Solcita2]

u see him once or twice a week and u consider urself in a ldr?

 

how apart do u live from each other?

 

how old r u guys?

[HeavenOrHell]

Sorry, I know I'm selfish, but I can't bring myself to reply, or it's just too painful to reply, on threads where couples see each other once a week or more, to me it's not comparable to not seeing your partner for weeks or months on end and being torn apart by it.

 

No-one can tell you if he's become distant emotionally or whether you are imagining it, it might just be that the honeymoon phase is over and he's not as demonstrative now, it happens in some r/ships. Is he stressed about anything? This can make people seem distant.

 

Or maybe over time he feels you're not right together.