samsungxoxo Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 that's my issue... he flat out told you that he'd rather have money than you...Why didn't she dump him when he said that? If a man ever told me that I would be gone in seconds. Link to post Share on other sites
It's Just Me Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 First off, it's nobody's responsibility to buy me things. I buy my own things, and that includes clothes. If I can't afford them, I don't buy them. I would die before asking my boyfriend to help me out financially, because I'm a responsible adult, and we do not live together. However, birthdays are important to me (and to a lot of people, I think). A gift, or a card, or some flowers -- anything thoughtful that acknowledges my birthday is very much appreciated. Dinner at McDonald's? Not thoughtful. Not classy. This man thinks more of himself than he does of you. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Why didn't she dump him when he said that? If a man ever told me that I would be gone in seconds. same here, I even know a guy like this one and he can not keep a gf. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 This man thinks more of himself than he does of you. and that's the point i think everyone is trying to make... Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 ...then he started singing diamonds are forever. I almost bought this whole story until that line. What straight guy sings "diamonds are forever?" Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 LOL you guys are ALL getting trolled hard. /facepalm 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 Wow I only read a few posts but damn. No sex until he starts buying you things....welcome to 1954 everybody! Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 The OP's story is very hard to believe. I smell fake. Even a guy with an IQ under 80 doesn't sing "Diamonds are forever" in a situation like that. C'mon. OP's probably getting a good laugh out of some of these replies. And the OP's likely a guy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheercap95 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Share Posted September 11, 2013 I almost bought this whole story until that line. What straight guy sings "diamonds are forever?" He actually said "benjis are forever" and he says that like all the time. Its a line from this rap song. I'm not lying about anything and if you would rather ridicule me then answer my question then don't post. To everyone else he did take me to mcdonalds BUT it was late when i came over because i had been school shopping all day. We didn't have a lot of options and he did ask me if it was okay first and i agreed because i didnt wanna be stressful. But idk i had just assumed he was gonna cook for me or something special like that. We got to talk for a little. I told him how i felt about the birthday stuff and he said "i didn't realize it was such a big deal to you. i don't even celebrate my birthday but i'll make it special for you next year" i thought that was sweet cuz that means he plans to be with me a year from now:love: we have a date for this weekend and i really wanna talk about this money thing. I don't want him to feel like i'm a gold digger or he has to buy me stuff but i do want him to buy me stuff. And not because i tell him to but because he wants to. How can i tell him that without seeming like a gold digger? I really like him a lot and i feel like if i can get him to choose me over cash things would be perfect. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 I had to re read the original post again. If this is true the guy was totally upfront and honest. He laid out his priorities. Cant fault a guy for that. She asked him to he her boyfriend. He did not ask first. She asked him to buy her things. He paid for food and snacks and meals that he could enjoy too. His priorities. She gave in to have sex with him. Even after he stated his feelings about money. They are both very young. If their priorities differ do much the OP needs to decide if she wants to accept his priorities and if so, shut up about them. Or tell him that its not working for her because she feels undervalued and break it off. Sounds like the OP has a lot more invested in the relationship emotionally than the guy does. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 He actually said " To everyone else he did take me to mcdonalds BUT it was late when i came over because i had been school shopping all day. We didn't have a lot of options and he did ask me if it was okay first and i agreed because i didnt wanna be stressful. But idk i had just assumed he was gonna cook for me or something special like that. We got to talk for a little. I told him how i felt about the birthday stuff and he said "i didn't realize it was such a big deal to you. i don't even celebrate my birthday but i'll make it special for you next year" i thought that was sweet cuz that means he plans to be with me a year from now:love: we have a date for this weekend and i really wanna talk about this money thing. I don't want him to feel like i'm a gold digger or he has to buy me stuff but i do want him to buy me stuff. And not because i tell him to but because he wants to. How can i tell him that without seeming like a gold digger? I really like him a lot and i feel like if i can get him to choose me over cash things would be perfect. Nows thats a salesman! This guy should wrote a book, id buy it! Link to post Share on other sites
Kofybean Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 ... He told me i should save up and come back and get them, all while he has hundreds of dollars in his pocket....He told me "when the moneys gone you'll be gone too. so i would rather have my money." then he started singing diamonds are forever. ... I love this guy! I wish I was half that wise when I was 19. Girls were trashing me left and right when i was 19. He knows what he's doing. Sorry you aren't happy, but everyone is acting like they are super holy and still happily married to their 19 yo crush and he is just the worse. When that guy is my age he and ready to settle down he will be in a far better place than anyone posting on this board judging him. That's a fact. i would never tell a 19 yo boy to make anyone his priority, esp a girl. And I'd never tell my daughter if I had one to expect a 19 yo boy to make her his priority. Link to post Share on other sites
emva07 Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 No ihop in the area ? Why would you assume he'd cook for you and then get mad when he didn't? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 It sounds like you are second to his money and he is pretty honest about. I know I will get flamed for this but I would rather a young guy be like this than constantly be giving up his self respect for a woman. I don't know where he is getting all that money at 19 but that is another thread. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 I know I will get flamed for this but I would rather a young guy be like this than constantly be giving up his self respect for a woman. There can be a middle grown too. He doesn't have to spend all his money on elegant restaurants but neither is the other extreme of not even putting an effort and going as crappy as possible; treating the girl as she were in last place good either. Taking anyone to McDonalds on a birthday isn't even making an effort. There are many cheap restaurants besides that. I find birthdays important to me. Link to post Share on other sites
natwilliams Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 I wouldnt break things off unless you really think he's actually a jerk. A guy shouldnt have to buy things for his gf, especially at his age. Even older, a guy often loses respect if he keeps buying stuff for his girl. He may be withholding gifts for that very reason. It doesnt matter how much money he has. Besides do you actually know he is rich? He may just be trying to give the impression to bait you, and if he is, it sounds like its working! Ive had girls assume i was rich before and it annoyed me plus she took everything for granted. It really shouldnt matter anyway. Both girl and boy should be equally generous, until they are super serious (like over a year) and then one might become significant financial support for the other. Cautiously i would add. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 I've never had a boyfriend who spent money on me, but there's a big difference between a guy not spending money because he just can't afford it, and a guy who blows his money on random stuff. It seems to me that if he was poor and was using his money to pay billls and such, rather than buying frivolous things like clothes, it wouldn't bother you that he doesn't spend money on you, right? It's more his blatant "shove in your face" way of showing you that his money is more important than you. That is the problem 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted September 11, 2013 Share Posted September 11, 2013 Yeah, this guy pretty much has told you his money is more important to him than you are and it will remain that way. While I don't blame him for not buying you clothes at the one store, the McDonald's birthday meal is extremely tacky. Link to post Share on other sites
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