cheercap95 Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Ok so i am not like a gold digger or anything. But my boyfriend of 9 months literally won't buy me anything. I just turned 18 on the 3rd. He is turning 19. On our first date he took me to dinner and a movie. Was so romantic because i've never had a guy my age do something like that. He continued to pay for everything up until about two months into our relationship. I asked him if he was gonna make me his girlfriend and told him i wanted to spend more time with him. He told me that he felt the same about me but if i was his girlfriend he really couldn't afford to pay everytime we hung out. I told him that was fine because i had my own money. But like lets say me and him get invited to a party. He goes to the mall and buys 300 dollar jeans, and 200 dollar shoes, and a 150 dollar shirt. And this is for literally every party he goes to. But he won't even buy me perfume. Once we went into forever21 and i asked him to get me these leggings. They were like 28 dollars and i didn't have enough. He told me i should save up and come back and get them, all while he has hundreds of dollars in his pocket. He doesn't want to pay for food when we go out. And if we go out to eat and i don't have money he gets really annoyed. The last straw was my birthday. First on the day of my actual birthday he invited me over to his house. I figured he had something romantic planned. All he wanted to do was have sex. Then he took me for a birthday dinner at mcdonalds and we watched movies at his house. I felt like crying but i wasn't too angry cuz i got to spend the night with him. Then on the day of my birthday party he showed up in a new outfit. But he didn't buy me anything at all. My whole family was there and he didn't even get me flowers. He said he didn't think he needed too since he paid for the food. He did buy a few hundred dollars worth of snacks and alcohol but come on now? It was my birthday. He spent the whole night hanging out with my friends. Not even paying any attention to me. Then at the end of the night i asked him why he couldn't buy me stuff when he has the money to, because if the tables were turned i would split all my cash with him. I love him. He told me "when the moneys gone you'll be gone too. so i would rather have my money." then he started singing diamonds are forever. I started crying because i was drunk and i felt like my bday was ruined. He just got up and left the hotel. My friends said he slept in his car then left. Me and him haven't really talked since. He sends me good morning texts. I text him back every now and then. But we haven't seen each other and haven't spoken. I miss him bad. And i love him. But i feel like if he really loved me the cash wouldn't be so important to him. But maybe the cash shouldn't be so important to me either? But my whole family is saying that it doesn't matter how much money he has if hes not willing to use it to take care of me. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 This isn't about cash. It's about him showing that you are a priority to him. And it is obvious he prioritizes his money over you - he flat out TOLD you that. So yes, you should break it off. Absolutely NO more sex for him. He sounds like a selfish jerk, honestly. You can do better. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 It boggles my mind he buys snacks and alcohol and you're still upset? Have you ever taken him out on his birthday? If it's all about money for you then he's better off without you to be honest. I would never ask for such things from someone. Did you even read the rest of the thread? The point is, he'll go out of the way to spend tons of money when it's himself that he's concerned about, but won't so much as do his share of things when he's with her. This has nothing to do about "wanting money". It's priorities. I treat friends better than that even. He shouldn't be expected to always pay, but to never do anything even on her birthday? Come on now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 But like lets say me and him get invited to a party. He goes to the mall and buys 300 dollar jeans, and 200 dollar shoes, and a 150 dollar shirt. And this is for literally every party he goes to. WHAT THE HECK DOES YOUR BOYFRIEND DO THAT HE CAN AFFORD TO SPEND $650 ON CLOTHES EVERY TIME HE GOES OUT?!?!?!!?!? Heck, I make 6 figures and *I* am not constantly spending that much on clothes! Is your boyfriend a drug dealer or something? Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheercap95 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Share Posted September 10, 2013 It boggles my mind he buys snacks and alcohol and you're still upset? Have you ever taken him out on his birthday? If it's all about money for you then he's better off without you to be honest. I would never ask for such things from someone. Yes i did take him out for his birthday. I didn't have a lot of money so i bought him a shirt, i took him to a seafood restaurant, and i bought him a cupcake and a candle. He doesn't enjoy celebrating his birthday but if he did yes i woulda thrown a huge party for him. And yes i woulda figured out a way to pay for everything. Its not all about money to me. But if i had as much money as him i would be buying him whatever he wanted. Not acting like i couldn't part with a dime. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 he paid for the food, dump him if you are not happy, get your own money who told you to expect men to pay-on-demand? you were ill-advised, sorry Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 my dear, boys will always be afraid that girls are after his money. I think you need to make him understand that you don't want "diamonds", but you want attention. And, yes, attention translates into gifts for your birthday, not into alcohol for the party. Something from him, to you. Something that he would think of, choose, pick and offer you. Not just something that he pays for. Boys are a bit tough-headed, but ideally, you'd talk to him and manage to explain him the difference. I think that pteromom would be right... if the guy was 38, such as my ex. At 38, he should know better. At 19... maybe not. i'd sit down with him and discuss. If he prefers to stay to his own opinion, yes, dump him. Only idiots don't change their minds . best of luck ! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cheercap95 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Share Posted September 10, 2013 WHAT THE HECK DOES YOUR BOYFRIEND DO THAT HE CAN AFFORD TO SPEND $650 ON CLOTHES EVERY TIME HE GOES OUT?!?!?!!?!? Heck, I make 6 figures and *I* am not constantly spending that much on clothes! Is your boyfriend a drug dealer or something? No he is just really money oriented. He owns a scrap metal/yardwork company with his friend. He payed for the majority of the truck they use and his friend splits profits with him 50/50. He also sells phones, jordans, computers, cars and anything he can make a profit off of. And his two older brothers own a night club downtown so they make a lot of money. He gets paid just to hang around there on weekends. I doubt he makes 6 figures but i know he has a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Many women won't even date a guy who is not willing to pay for the dates. Then who is selfish? For many women it's all about money, please don't try to fool people otherwise. ((((blink blink)))) Yes, I am fooling people. I am going to trick all menz into giving all wommenz ALL THE MONEY!!!! Mua ha ha ha ha!!! Yes, some women won't date a guy who isn't willing to pay, but that isn't what this thread is about at all. She pays her half, obviously has MUCH less money than he does, and he hoards his money like Scrooge McDuck. What if this was about her sharing her body instead of him sharing his money? Would you be saying he is selfish for wanting sex when it is known that some men won't even date a girl who won't sleep with them. The fact is a relationship can't be built if one partner is score-keeping and doling out little bits of love with resentment, whether that love comes in the form of money or something else. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 But like lets say me and him get invited to a party. He goes to the mall and buys 300 dollar jeans, and 200 dollar shoes, and a 150 dollar shirt. And this is for literally every party he goes to. . He's 19! What does he do for a living? I'm three times his age, make six figures and I don't even spend that much on shoes and clothes. And this is for every party he goes to? Yikes. Link to post Share on other sites
Dallers Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Surely there is a limit to loving someone when the words Mcdonalds and Birthday come into the same sentence. I would be pissing myself laughing. Gtfo of this relationship. I love money i am greedy and selfish. If a girl came into my life she would be drinking only the finest wine, because she is clearly irresistible to break through my barrier. Get rid. Next! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Many women won't even date a guy who is not willing to pay for the dates. Then who is selfish? For many women it's all about money, please don't try to fool people otherwise. he paid for the food, dump him if you are not happy, get your own money who told you to expect men to pay-on-demand? you were ill-advised, sorry He took her to McDonald's for her birthday. McDonald's. All else aside, that alone makes him dump-worthy. 13 Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 He took her to McDonald's for her birthday. McDonald's. All else aside, that alone makes him dump-worthy. This...so much this. Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 He took her to McDonald's for her birthday. McDonald's. All else aside, that alone makes him dump-worthy. I really have nothing to contribute to this thread, but I did just want to say: McDonald's is considered a pretty classy date in many European countries. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 What countries exactly? Not sure what others may be referring to, but my meals at McDonald's in Moscow and Nischny Novgorod were the absolute best I've ever had. Burgers were every bit as good as a filet. It would suffice for a birthday as long as I could supersize the fries. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Not sure what others may be referring to, but my meals at McDonald's in Moscow and Nischny Novgorod were the absolute best I've ever had. Burgers were every bit as good as a filet. It would suffice for a birthday as long as I could supersize the fries. I suspect you ate political prisoners. And they probably even put mayonaise on the fries. Seriously? McDonald's? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 I suspect you ate political prisoners. And they probably even put mayonaise on the fries. Seriously? McDonald's? OMG, yes! You can have a quarter pounder at 9am. None of this breakfast crap/time cutoff. Could be I was just tired of caviar and vodka; I was never so thrilled to see the Golden Arches! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 What countries exactly? Mostly Eastern European / Slavic parts of the world. EDIT: Also, some of the McDonald's places can look pretty friggin' classy, too. Check it: Top 10: McDonald's - AskMen NOTE: I haven't eaten McDonalds in many, many years. I'm not some sort of marketer . Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Drop that loser before he drops you! Hes only using you for sex because its free and hes too cheap to pay for it. Kick that loser to the curb before you waste more of your life on him! ! But you probably wont because hes a bad boy and girls like drama! Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 I really have nothing to contribute to this thread, but I did just want to say: McDonald's is considered a pretty classy date in many European countries. No it isn't! McDonald's is still McDonalds. Anyone taking me to McD's for a birthday meal is getting the boot! And I LOVE it! I don't mind eating there at all! But it's not classy and it's not a birthday meal place. There needs to be cutlery and plates! Link to post Share on other sites
StanMusial Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 No he is just really money oriented. He owns a scrap metal/yardwork company with his friend. He payed for the majority of the truck they use and his friend splits profits with him 50/50. He also sells phones, jordans, computers, cars and anything he can make a profit off of. And his two older brothers own a night club downtown so they make a lot of money. He gets paid just to hang around there on weekends. I doubt he makes 6 figures but i know he has a lot. Oh snap. You're really going to be pissed when you find the little hussy he's been spending his cash on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Brunettie Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Yeah....No. Just no. That's not acceptable. He's showing you what's important to him. Do you want to continue a relationship where he's going to prioritize his money over you, always? McDonalds? really? Don't spend even a penny more on him. Not even flowers? Or at least a card? No. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 He told me "when the moneys gone you'll be gone too. so i would rather have my money." that's my issue... he flat out told you that he'd rather have money than you... Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) My ex bf didn't like spending too much money but if there is something he didn't do is take me to McDonalds on my birthday. How insulting can that be!!!! I can understand if it's a guy that's doesn't spend his money too much in general and goes to the movies for the OP's birthday but this man is the real definition of a greedy cheapskate. Why do I say that? Because he doesn't mean spending way too much money on himself and unnecessary stuff but is cheap with a gf? On what exactly is he spending $500 on that he can't even make an impression on the OP's birthday? Anything is way better than McDonalds. If he really didn't have money, he could have buy a couple of beers, a film and chinese food or chicken and take that to the OP's house. If I had to stay with a greedy guy, I'd rather take one that's greedy with everyone and everything in general than one that's greedy with me but has no problems wasting lots of money on other things. At least the first one would tell me that's him overall rather than the latter telling me he is hiding something. I smell a rat. I believe the OP's bf has something to hide. Girl ditch this loser like yesterday's newspaper. Edited September 10, 2013 by samsungxoxo Link to post Share on other sites
Midnight_Princess Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Sounds like he should of ordered you a happy meal Link to post Share on other sites
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