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Drewx2 Established Member

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with my current problem for example; If she ever came across my post she would know it was me pretty quickly.

 

Has anyone ever got "caught." :o The world is a small place..the Internets even smaller.

 

Do you worry about this sometimes?

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Yes, I definitely worry about it in regards to specific things and I try to be wary of certain things due to that on public message boards.

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Shepp Established Member

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Anyone who read half of my stuff and new me personally would know its me! Most of my friends would of seen my pic before cause it was on my facebook not that long ago.

 

Doesn't really bother me - I don't say owt I wouldn't say to the people I know in life.

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I think about this all the time! If any of my closest friends or my bf found the posts I would be revealed. I can only hope that since I discuss most of my concerns openly with my bf already, that there would be no surprises. He might just be mad that I put it out on display for everyone to see. But sometimes however intelligent you are, you need that third party perspective.

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Anyone who read half of my stuff and new me personally would know its me! Most of my friends would of seen my pic before cause it was on my facebook not that long ago.

 

Doesn't really bother me - I don't say owt I wouldn't say to the people I know in life.

 

I don't post anything bad..but I do post some stuff that makes me look like a desperate oversensitive pansy.

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with my current problem for example; If she ever came across my post she would know it was me pretty quickly.

 

Has anyone ever got "caught." :o The world is a small place..the Internets even smaller.

 

Do you worry about this sometimes?

 

 

i really shouldnt post as much personal info as i do .....if they see deb at the end of my posts and by what i say, and write wouldnt take a brain surgeon to figure out its me..most of my family know i write on love shack they know its actually an outlet for me they actually dont check up on me i dont think ...maybe...maybe not......i dont write much about current situations.....its a lot of personal hsitroy...my ex.....if he read that i have disclosed our history he might be upset.....but then he probably would understand me he has known me for two decades...i havent lied......and it is healing for me to try and help others through my own experiences.....it gets it out of my head and actually might do some good instead of damage...if anyone reads this who has sexually abused me and it clicks in their head hey that was me, then i dont give a stuff what they think..i forgive them btu i dont care..... and that is probably the only reason...i dont out them which i could but it wouldnt help me to do that..nearly all that are close to me know my history including full disclosure to my mum, my sister....and any partners i have had....

 

 

i have disclosed some mhistory in the church i am part of...but...not all...that would be the only situation where i would feel insecure that they would judge me without actual facts just cut me off.......i wouldnt blame them......but it would hurt like crap......i stand behind what i have written, i have not lied, i have been honest and open ........my past is my past......cant change it i have learned from it and maybe i can help others with it.

 

my youngest daughters do not know some( that would be ex whore related) that would be not a good scenario that i am not ready to explain to them, they are not old enough...they however respect my privacy .....who knows there could be many people who know me on here....what could i possibly do about hat....except to be just who i am and not change.if peopel know me and are nto admitting they know i am on here,they are the ones being deceitful not me.when i am really sick...i do get paranoid....about how much i have disclosed...that is in direct relation to putting my family up for perusal or possible risk..i go rank if i am sick and i feel threatened and soemtimes i feel like there are familiarities a sense of the familiar...in words..... on here with peopel i know...deb

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miss_jaclynrae Established Member

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I could care less.

 

The mister knows I post on here so that is all that really matters.

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with my current problem for example; If she ever came across my post she would know it was me pretty quickly.

 

Has anyone ever got "caught." :o The world is a small place..the Internets even smaller.

 

Do you worry about this sometimes?

 

I think we can sometimes get too comfortable with presumed anonymity when it's not really 100% anonymous in that the details people share esp if they've been here for a while, if someone who knows them was reading pieces may start to add up to identify them.

 

I try to be careful about that, but I don't really worry about it in any real way.

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with my current problem for example; If she ever came across my post she would know it was me pretty quickly.

 

Has anyone ever got "caught." :o The world is a small place..the Internets even smaller.

 

Do you worry about this sometimes?

 

There have been cases where ill-intentioned people have used photos and information posted to track down the RL identity of other members, posting pictures of them on LS to alert them to their blown anonymity. Especially where people are wanting, or needing, confidentiality, that can be a problem.

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Nope. If my current so reads my stuff. I don't care to be honest. I just don't.

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I really don't post anything on here that I wouldn't say to someone close to me in real life. So I doubt they would be surprised if they somehow stumbled across my posts. I also think people have an overinflated ego sometimes. Who would really care if they found out you posted here? :p Like right now im horribly bored at Tampa airport. Doubt anyones gonna show up to entertain me knowing that. :o

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My bf knows I read/post on SOMETHING--I mean I read LS all the time when we are on the train etc and have mentioned it to him (not by name), but for some reason he refers to it as a blog, so IDK. I wouldn't care if he read my posts that are about him, they aren't a secret. I just don't think there is anything to be embarrassed out regarding seeking outside advice/thoughts.

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you know what I just thought about reading this post?

 

I found LS a while ago when I googled a relationship question and I came across LS.

 

So now I wonder, what if my arch nemesis, boss, or coworker searches something on google, comes upon LS and sees my posts???

 

Maybe I should take down that picture of myself....only my closest friends know the story behind my most embarrassing threads on here, if anyone else I knew came across them, I'd be really embarrassed. Especially it's my evil ex boss who hated me and would love that sort of dirt came across them.

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you know what I just thought about reading this post?

 

I found LS a while ago when I googled a relationship question and I came across LS.

 

So now I wonder, what if my arch nemesis, boss, or coworker searches something on google, comes upon LS and sees my posts???

 

Maybe I should take down that picture of myself....only my closest friends know the story behind my most embarrassing threads on here, if anyone else I knew came across them, I'd be really embarrassed. Especially it's my evil ex boss who hated me and would love that sort of dirt.

 

Yeah LS has tons of members and it is a site that WILL pop up if anyone googles for relationship advice. Its not at all an anonymous, small forum that you should have a pic up on if you don't want people to know you post :)

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Do you think it's risky to post detailed information on forums

 

Yes, and LoveShack guidelines discourage it. Typically, we get at least one request a week to delete someone's account and/or threads because they've been 'found'. Since our policy is to retain posting content with responses, things often get contentious. Please post judiciously about personal matters. Thanks.

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Drewx2 Established Member

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you know what I just thought about reading this post?

 

I found LS a while ago when I googled a relationship question and I came across LS.

 

So now I wonder, what if my arch nemesis, boss, or coworker searches something on google, comes upon LS and sees my posts???

 

Maybe I should take down that picture of myself....only my closest friends know the story behind my most embarrassing threads on here, if anyone else I knew came across them, I'd be really embarrassed. Especially it's my evil ex boss who hated me and would love that sort of dirt came across them.

 

I'd definitely take down the picture...I'm realizing that my username is way too descriptive.

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The thought of giving out personal info to strangers online always seems a little stupid to me and its amazing how many people are so blasé about it. Stay anonymous and only give out personal details to the people you trust. Common sense.

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Yes, I think it is risky. I remember somebody once posting part of a facebook conversation between her boyfriend and another woman, and somehow it included a hyperlink to the girl's real facebook profile. I recall that somebody messaged the other woman with a link to the page, allegedly to warn her that somebody was compromising her personal security by posting details and linking her to it, but I can't imagine the humiliation of the poster at having the other woman read her entire post full of jealousy, worry, insecurity etc. I don't know how that panned out.

 

I know of another poster who says he doesn't mind people knowing who he is, because he never says anything he wouldn't say to the people he knows in real life, but just from his posts I know his full name, his profession, the full name of his girlfriend etc. I wouldn't want any forum full of thousands of people knowing that stuff about me.

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