Independentanswers Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Hello. I made this account because I need some answers from people WHO are more objective. Here is the story made short: I met this girl at my school. She was the most beautiful girl I've seen. So I talked to her. I was close to being friendzoned, had bad self asteem, i acted like a dick We then kept talking and after 5 months she became my first love and gf. I has her first BF. we were good together and lost our virginites to one enouther. I could use all my money on her, text an entire day, hangout all the time, too respectful, I was too interested in her life, kept saying I love her, she was beautiful. I also baught her presents constantly. I even Baught 250 dollar flowers and made my first love note to her. She did not take the flowers home which she regretted immedetky but i guess she was too stubborn to take them with her. I was tooooooo clingy. I ended up making mistakes throughout the relationship which were cool as I learned from them - nothing serious. Though close to the end I made up a white lie which killed me so I confessed and she got very mad as she told from the start she hates liers. I hurt her badly. She then started to act like she did not care and so on. BEFORE she broke up with me - she had asked me about 4-5 weeks before how you should break up with a person. I told her that a public breakup or text is really bad but I asked what was wrong. She kept saying nothing was wrong. 3 times in our relationship she withheld problems which could've been solved with talking but she was bad at communication. She also kept thinking about a boy named Lee but he left oversees for a year and they had never really talked. She idolised him. When she broke up with me I told her I was thankful to have met her, she will always have a place in my heart and I wish her and her family the best of luck. Though I told her I found it impolite/bad to break up with me in public even though I told her I would hate that. She was really mad over that. She also saied: I love you but not in love, don't enjoy my company anymore, bored and it is vital that in my future relationship that there was a solid foundation. Though she neither had no regrets about knowing me and us. Then we went our separate ways. My question is: Not that I am not clingy, matured, not a liar and have gotten help... Should I contact her? I miss her so badly and still love her with all my heart.. Even though I flirt with girls nothing compares too her. I just made so many ducking small mistakes and made a bad foundation for the relationship.. But I still love her... I learned all my mistakes which will not happen again. She is too stubborn to contact me even if she loves me... I just wish her the best.. But I am willing to let her go in order for her to be happy.. Even in our relationship I just cared for her and wanted her to be happy. Then I could be happy. Sometimes she would lead me on and make me very horny and then quit. She did not even take the flowers home. I was not even mad.It was about her needs and not mine <3 We are Young so she might want to test the field though i dont need that. She is in high School and i just graduated high School. Sorry for long post.. Please help :/
CarrieT Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 We are Young so she might want to test the field though i dont need that. She is in high School and i just graduated high School. Do not contact her. Go through college and wait a decade - at least - before contacting her... 1
hinatticus Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 You will make many more mistakes and so will your future partners. Just keep learning and have fun, you're young. First loves rarely last, at least you had a first love.
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