swandive83 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 ... He wants me to help him with something?? I don't know what to say... part of me wants to be cordial and polite, the other part of me wants to ignore him (but I don't know if that's healthy... I'm trying to let go of bitterness). What to do... *sigh
reddragon588 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Ignore it for now. If its important, he will ask again and clarify what he's looking for. Until its specific its breadcrumbs. Even when it's specific it is still likely breadcrumbs. You don't owe him help. 1
barky2 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Yes, help him feel better about his ego. How about this Ignore it. Consider it a ego boost for you. Put a smile on your face And go buy something for yourself. Do NOT contact him back. I promise you , right now, this second, you will not get the replies you want. Barky 4
Zahara Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 "The worst thing is... HE deleted ME. He broke up with me then deleted me from all social media. It was traumatizing the way he did it. I think that's why it's so hard... If I'm completely honest with myself, I have to admit that I was blown away by the way this guy rejected me and never looked back. It's painful, and I even told him that at first and he was so cold towards me. So I guess I check his sites to get answers, to search for clues. I noticed he was talking a lot to one of my other co-workers ( I actually noticed this while we were together)... and the first time I saw them talking after we had broken up (which was only a week), I asked her if they were dating, she said no that she wasn't interested in him in that way...well, I think that may have sparked something else... or perhaps they were already planning something ... Anyway, she was right there next to him in the picture." Read what you wrote. And you're wondering if you should help him? Ignoring isn't about bitterness. It's about self-preservation. And that means you place your healing as your priority. 3
forgetmenot75 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 eww...so difficult. after reading Zahara's post about your breakup I'd say: IGNORE However, and because I know how hard this will be, you just can opt to respond in a polite way: "No, thanks" And that's all. 1
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