Why does he act like this?

[Weird]

Thanks for the kind words.

 

Well, it sucks that things didn't go "perfect" but at least you got that off your head and dont have to keep wondering.

 

Seems a little weird he didn't answer the question about him seeing himself loving you but hey, people are weird hence my handle here.

 

I think his answer to why a long distance wouldnt work is bogus/a copout but hey, that is a mentality many take.

 

Anyway, I am glad you got that stuff off your mind and I know that it hurts but it is good you realize that it apparently wasn't to be as that si the best philosophy to follow.

 

I'm doing well, thanks. My attmpted friendship with my ex came to an end Friday. That is ok because she is a shell of her former self and is more like a robot now obsessed wiht her work than a person. I knew pretty much from when she came to apologize to me in Sept that she wasn't the same but I decided I had nothing to lose so decided to try and see if this friendship would work. It didnt and that's fine with me. I didn't lose anything:) She should go take some lesosns from you on how to act.

[sad123]

Aww, your so nice Weird.

 

I know. That was pretty weird about how he didn't answer the question after I kept telling him that it's ok if the answer was no. What do you think that was about?

Well, your right. It's all over now. Now I am going to try and concentrate on my self and staying strong.

 

You know another thing that was strange? He was nice. Didn't feel awkward and it seemed like he wasn't going to cut contact from me or anything. He's usually the one to get off the phone first...but last night it was like he wanted to stay on the phone and talk. I was tired and sad so I wanted to go to sleep.

 

Why did you end your friendship with your ex? You don't have feelings for her do you? Or why else would you feel that a friendship wouldn't work? Are you seeing anyone at the moment? Is she?

[Weird]

Thanks babe:)

 

Have no idea why he didn't answer. Either he thought you were BSing him when you said you didn't care if he said no or he didn't want to say no because he isn't so sure. I always take people not answering a question as a sign they don't want to admit to what they are asked but then again I am a logical "straight up" human being and most people lack logic.

 

I didn't so much end the friendship. It jsut wasn't working simply ebcause she has turned into a robot obsessed with work rather than a human being who values relationships (friendships, romantic, etc) which is how I am. I do have feelings for the girl she used ot be but I do not care for the girl she is now.

 

Nope, I am not seeing anyone and neither is she. Even if she wanted to be in a relationship with a dude she couldn't since she is married to her job. Sad...yet pathetic.

 

There is a ton more to all this but I won't bore you with my story. Plus, I would not want to submit you to the torture of hearing it all (it's so retarded) because you are a good person.

 

The funny thing is I can see my ex contacting me before the end of the year despite crap she said on Friday. That is how messed up she is now. She's wishy-washy to the extreme.

[sad123]

Weird,

 

How long have you been with your ex? And if she does contact you do you think you will get back together?

 

As for my ex, well, your right...he probabaly didnt know for sure about what he wanted. He said that he still wants to talk to me but do you think that would be a good idea? I told him that I fell in love with him and also told him that I knew he didn't feel the same way about me. You know what? He didn't say anything. He was quiet. The whole conversation he didn't say anything negative or positive he just stayed quiet.

 

I feel like something has been taken out from inside of me. I also feel scared and hurt. I have to move on. Do you have any suggestions?

[Weird]

I was with my ex for about 2 years.

 

If by some freak reason she came to me tomorrow and said she thought about things and wants to get back together I'd say no. I flat out don't like the person she has become. She has no personality now.

 

Good thing is the above won't happen because even if she wasn't a robot just focused on working, she is too stubborn and her image of me is based on whatever past issues we had rather than seeing that since we are two intelligent beings we could make sure whatever issues from the past don't happen again. Basically I have matured and changed in positive ways and she hasn't so I wouldn't waste my time on her. Now if she came to em in the future and showed me she has changed and matured, I'd think about getting back with her.

 

Well, if you want to keep talking to him then go for it but I can envision it turning out weird since the "cats been let out of the bag" so to speak. Try it though if you truly want to keep the guy in your life as a friend for the time being.

 

The only suggestion I can give you is to feel it wasn't meant to be and try to think less about him and let time heal/sort it all out. Personally I say you don't continue to talk to the guy since I don't feel exes can be friends (I proved to myself with my ex what I had always felt) and I think it'd end up hurting you more. I think you need time to heal (trust me, time makes it all feel better) and when I say that I realize you have had 10 months since break-up but those were 10 months where you had this stuff on your mind so you didn't really go into the healing process. Now that you have told him your feelings you can now focus on "moving on" and feeling better and sort of start "fresh." Basically you need to try and focus your attention on other aspects of your life and keep your mind/body busy.

 

If all that doesnt work you could always invent a teleporter and could teleport to where I live and we could watch movies and play video games. It's a shame I can't hang with some of the peeps of this site because I'm sure we could all have fun hanging out and bitching about how silly humans can be.