So for those w/ phone contact, what are YOU in his/her phone as?

[bentleychic]

Seems most MM put their OW in their phone contact as a guy from work. I know mine does.

 

I always told him if she ever reads his texts to and from me, she's going to think he's totally in to guys.

[Daisy2013]

My name as we had valid reasons for calling. I rarely call him, he always called me.

[JPMC]

nope, dialed the number. told her keep my name out of it.

[bentleychic]

I should also say that I don't have him in my phone as his name, either, but only b/c it's VERY close to a relatives name and I'd hate to send the relatives his texts instead. LOL So although I don't have him in as his first name, it is his last and I have his pic on the profile. Definitely not hiding on my side.

[wrinkledforhead]

I have all of his contact info but I've saved his main cell as a note. I've only ever used it twice, in case of emergency. I don't want to accidentally text or call it.

 

Both of us are fairly private people so we have the max security settings on our phones (re: the subject within the text does not pop up; it merely indicates a message has been sent. Passwords to even access any operations on the phone, etc).

 

I am in his work phone as a work name. For a long time I was in it as a pseudo name, until I suggested it was more prudent to change it. He is in my phone under his initials, which is a recent change from the pseudo name I've listed him under.

[Anna-Belle]

He used to have me listed by my middle name (not sure what good that would have done if she'd seen it, being as it too is a woman's name). When we went LC on my suggestion, me being fed up with being the OW, I demanded he change it to my first name which he did.

 

For years he really didn't do much to hide me.

[yellowmaverick]

Seems most MM put their OW in their phone contact as a guy from work. I know mine does.

 

 

 

How do you feel about this? Does it bother you that even your name is kept hidden and secret?

[Cali408]

bentleychic, I get the impression you're basking in your affair. I don't know if that's a good thing... Most people on here seem figure out why they got involved, how to move on. You try and glorify it.

[Red Wolverine]

I was an initial. It's all so silly.

 

Being a secret, without an identity.

 

The man I'm seeing now has my name with a picture of me as the contact. He doesn't even lock his phone.

 

Wake up folks. Being a man's name, an initial, or some other form of ridiculousness is demeaning.

[HopingAgain]

I was an initial. It's all so silly.

 

Being a secret, without an identity.

 

The man I'm seeing now has my name with a picture of me as the contact. He doesn't even lock his phone.

 

Wake up folks. Being a man's name, an initial, or some other form of ridiculousness is demeaning.

 

Sure is. It seems very humiliating

[legalgirl]

We never even had each other's numbers. Used Yahoo Messenger or Voxer for all contact. Wow as I type this I see how pathetic of a "relationship" I had. Thank God I woke up!!!!!!

[LilGirlandOW]

I was always my real name, then an incident happened with a co-worker seeing him texting my name, the job-loss fear spiked and i got renamed to a mans name, a funny cute one i picked out, fastforward a couple months later and i was still on his phone as that mans name (i saw when he was showing me a funny voice to text message i sent earlier). I made an joking comment and puppy eyes and he changed it back as it still stands as me.

 

I switched his name once briefly when I was expecting him to text at any time and my daughter was using the phone,,,, didnt want her to ask "who's so-and-so?".

 

I'm a "single into the A" AP, now in some strange committed A my phone is basically him, few friends and family.... I have nothing to hide.

[ladydesigner]

My WH had his MOW under her name during the A because she worked for him, I never suspected anything. After DDay he took the A underground and put her under a pseudo name in which he copped to on DDay#2.

[rae_lana]

I'm just in his phone as myself. All of us know we all text each other but my husband and his wife text a lot more openly with each other, me and AP delete almost everything and it looks like we don't text often. But she wouldn't think it was weird to see my name at all.

[bentleychic]

bentleychic, I get the impression you're basking in your affair. I don't know if that's a good thing... Most people on here seem figure out why they got involved, how to move on. You try and glorify it.

Are you saying that based on this post alone? I posted it simply b/c I'd seen others mention how they're MM has them in their phone so was curious how common it is. I've never glorified it in the least and would never (nor have I ever) recommended someone to get in.

 

You're very, very wrong, ftr, on your perception of me and how I feel about the A.

[MissBee]

Seems most MM put their OW in their phone contact as a guy from work. I know mine does.

 

I always told him if she ever reads his texts to and from me, she's going to think he's totally in to guys.

 

Hmmm....never thought of this, it never came up.

 

But the nature of the situation was such that she wouldn't have been looking at his phone much anyway so I assume my name was what it really was...but since I never asked or checked, I don't know for sure.

[wrinkledforhead]

I was an initial. It's all so silly.

 

Being a secret, without an identity.

 

The man I'm seeing now has my name with a picture of me as the contact. He doesn't even lock his phone.

 

Wake up folks. Being a man's name, an initial, or some other form of ridiculousness is demeaning.

 

Well, despite the secrecy, I feel the need to point out that many people input random names, nicknames, and initials for other phone contacts as well. I know I have pet names for many of my contacts. But yes. I can imagine that for many the secrecy component would suck. I feel my personal A has quite a bit of a different dynamic than most on here.

[legalgirl]

I'm going to go out on a limb and say it probably doesn't (unless it is a fairly new affair). I'm sure we all thought our situation was unique but after being on here they are all pretty much the same and have the same ending. Not to burst your bubble!

[bentleychic]

I don't mind that he doesn't have me in there as my name b/c she does know who I am and I'd rather it not blow out of the water at this point in time. He refuses to put a password or passkey on his phone (I have told him my thoughts on this, ftr) and she does have his phone at times so it would be a no brainer if she looked at it and a message with my name on it popped up.

[Anna-Belle]

No password. Phone unlocked. Laying around the house.

[WakingUp]

Ha this made me laugh and I had to share...

 

During one of our breakups, I changed his name to "No f...ing way" in the phone. Unfortunately my phone was set to speak the name of the caller.

 

So there I am, just finished racing in my sport, standing with a group of five guys, and the phone starts up... "No f...ing way" ring ring.

 

I got some funny looks.

 

Lol it breaks me up to this day.

[bentleychic]

Mwahahahaha! Too funny!

[tryingto]

Ha this made me laugh and I had to share...

 

During one of our breakups, I changed his name to "No f...ing way" in the phone. Unfortunately my phone was set to speak the name of the caller.

 

So there I am, just finished racing in my sport, standing with a group of five guys, and the phone starts up... "No f...ing way" ring ring.

 

I got some funny looks.

 

Lol it breaks me up to this day.

 

Love this!!!! Too funny... After I ended the A almost 10 months ago, I changed exMM's name on my phone to A$$... Then I just deleted the contact information altogether after a couple of weeks.

 

Back to the original question though, during the A, he was in my phone as his name and supposedly I was in his phone as mine (don't know for sure I was always listed that way, though). Early in the A (I assume based upon a situation that occurred), I don't think I was a contact at all, just a number he texted a lot and called 2-3 times per day?

 

Doesn't matter anymore though and I am now so glad it doesn't!!

[randomwoman]

He never really told me but I suspect it's only by the first letter of my first name.

He's in my phone as his real name. He's a coworker.

[Red Wolverine]

Well, despite the secrecy, I feel the need to point out that many people input random names, nicknames, and initials for other phone contacts as well. I know I have pet names for many of my contacts. But yes. I can imagine that for many the secrecy component would suck. I feel my personal A has quite a bit of a different dynamic than most on here.

 

I used to believe mine was different, too. In many ways it was but when push comes to shove, they all end the same.... Badly.

 

Yours resonates with me the most. Smooth sailing until the bitter end.