Feb Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Out of curiosity, I randomly looked at some old threads to see if the stories have changed over the years. The answer is no, they have not ... same old stories with different screen names attached to them. This old post from a couple of years ago made me laugh, and is relevant to some of the current and new posters here. For me especially, #10 and #15 rang very true for my xAP. He felt he could read me sooooo well (and i believed it!), and he also expressed that he was a highly sexual person; we did talk about sex A LOT. List of things MMs say to get OWs From reading all the other threads and my own experience, I'll come up with a list of things MMs say to get potential OWs hooked. 1. He says there's an unbelievable connection between you two and makes you believe there really is. 2. He tells you you guys are a match made in heaven. That is, if he wasn't already married. 3. He says he doesn't love his wife anymore and has checked out long before Apple was trendy but is staying for his kids, or his wife is mental and will kill herself if he leaves her. 4. He's so attentive you believe even your past single boyfriends couldn't compare. 5. He tells you that you should hold onto the A because no other single guys would be able to give you the connection you guys have. 6. He convinces you that he's hurt if you don't return his calls or meet with him, and he's only feeling this way because it's true love. 7. He tells you he has a lot of problems in his marriage, and him not able to leave is making him miserable. Without a spark of creativity, he says only you can take away his misery. 8. He says he's in the midst of a divorce or is planning one. If only there's a right opportunity to bring it up. 9. He tells you he's looking for that one person that will make him firm up his decision to leave his wife. And that person could be you. 10. He tells you he can read you so well no other people comes close. And he goes on to reading you and convinces you you have a certain trait you never knew existed. 11. He asks how could you doubt my love for you? 12. He tells you his wife knows about his As. 13. He says his wife and him are just staying in the marriage for their kids so she won't come after you. 14. He tells you he's a "relationship man" and longs to be in a long-term relationship. Oh hold on, he's already in one. 15. He talks about sex quite a lot, and tells you he's a sexual person. 16. He says you're judging him and his actions when you remind him that he's an MM.
thefooloftheyear Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 The other thing you failed to mention..... There is only one side of the story being told....>>Somewhere in the middle of all that lies the truth.. TFY
affairaddict Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 It's weird mine said none of those things. Not one. I said we were connected and couple of the other things and he agreed. 2
Daisy2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 1, 2, 7, 11. To modify, I was the bright sporting his dull life and he smiles when he is on the phone with me.
bentleychic Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Mine hasn't used any of those lines, either.
Calcmag Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Mine didn't say any of them either. Although I know lots of them are frequently in the MM Script. There's a guy I used to be very good friends with who has used a couple of them on me recently. Then I realised his concept of friendship wasn't the same as mine!
rae_lana Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Out of curiosity, I randomly looked at some old threads to see if the stories have changed over the years. The answer is no, they have not ... same old stories with different screen names attached to them. This old post from a couple of years ago made me laugh, and is relevant to some of the current and new posters here. For me especially, #10 and #15 rang very true for my xAP. He felt he could read me sooooo well (and i believed it!), and he also expressed that he was a highly sexual person; we did talk about sex A LOT. List of things MMs say to get OWs From reading all the other threads and my own experience, I'll come up with a list of things MMs say to get potential OWs hooked. 1. He says there's an unbelievable connection between you two and makes you believe there really is. 2. He tells you you guys are a match made in heaven. That is, if he wasn't already married. 3. He says he doesn't love his wife anymore and has checked out long before Apple was trendy but is staying for his kids, or his wife is mental and will kill herself if he leaves her. 4. He's so attentive you believe even your past single boyfriends couldn't compare. 5. He tells you that you should hold onto the A because no other single guys would be able to give you the connection you guys have. 6. He convinces you that he's hurt if you don't return his calls or meet with him, and he's only feeling this way because it's true love. 7. He tells you he has a lot of problems in his marriage, and him not able to leave is making him miserable. Without a spark of creativity, he says only you can take away his misery. 8. He says he's in the midst of a divorce or is planning one. If only there's a right opportunity to bring it up. 9. He tells you he's looking for that one person that will make him firm up his decision to leave his wife. And that person could be you. 10. He tells you he can read you so well no other people comes close. And he goes on to reading you and convinces you you have a certain trait you never knew existed. 11. He asks how could you doubt my love for you? 12. He tells you his wife knows about his As. 13. He says his wife and him are just staying in the marriage for their kids so she won't come after you. 14. He tells you he's a "relationship man" and longs to be in a long-term relationship. Oh hold on, he's already in one. 15. He talks about sex quite a lot, and tells you he's a sexual person. 16. He says you're judging him and his actions when you remind him that he's an MM. 1 2 and 15 We are sexual people. We are the same, that's ok. We would have made an amazing couple, like nobody else. We are really the same person.
rae_lana Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 1, 2, 7, 11. To modify, I was the bright sporting his dull life and he smiles when he is on the phone with me. "I live to make you smile." No. No he doesn't.
Daisy2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Typo! He says I am the bright spot in his dull life and I make him smile. He tells me he is smiling while on the phone because I am talking to him and am his friend. Still says that, even as only friends. At least he hasn't asked me to meet up with him again even though he calls as my "friend." Answer would be no. He loves to use the word "friend" I guess to make sure I understand he means nothing more.
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