AlexanderJames Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 So I bumped into an ex from a few years ago on the weekend as people might know from my other thread; She bought me a drink. We danced. We had fun. Her current on again off again boyfriend saw us and lost it. She went home and messaged me letting me know she left but wanted to stay. Now you're caught up. Anyway we've been in full contact since. Like a daily stream of messages back and forth. Just catching up stuff on life since we last spoke back in December. I deliberately end the convos by not replying to a message at night. And I won't talk to her unless she messages me the next day. But everyone knows why I'm doing that haha. So today she's talking about how good it was to see me again and how much fun she had. I enjoyed hanging briefly with her when we crossed paths too. So I invited her out to play some billiards or see a movie one night. Her response was that - she would love to but she is scared that she might do something stupid. So to reassure her it was just to catch up I suggested a group of us go out to see an upcoming movie. She said - I'm always going to have feelings for you. So maybe it's not a good idea doing anything while I have a 'boyfriend' . She had been saying over the last few days that it's not serious and she doesn't know what's happening. So yeah. Wasn't too sure how to read that. She unblocked me on fb and added me to talk to me every day. But doesn't want to hang out through fear she will slip and do something bad by her current. But she admits she still has feelings for me. So I just stopped replying. For now I guess. Dunno how to go about it haha. I mean she is doing the right thing by her current in that she won't see me despite wanting to cause she doesn't want to be unfaithful. Which I respect. But I really just want to hang out cause she's fun to hang out with. We were friends before lovers or ex's. Any females done anything similar and know why? It doesnt bother me. But I've always been interested in why people think and behave the way they do.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 (edited) Should also add a couple of other things she said. She has said a couple times in the past she will always have feelings for me. Today she said she has never looked at me as a friend. And one night I got a call out of the blue saying I was perfect in every way and that she wishes she never left me. And that she had picked me over her current. ( after we had been split a year and a half we started talking and hanging out again which lead to sleeping together a couple of times. She had just started hanging out with her current and said she wanted to see where things went with him and broke it off with me) they have since broken up god knows how many times. We where never on and off. Just on. Then off. And a couple of nights now she has stayed at her currents house overnight but been messaging me regularly until late hours. Once I even got a message saying he was getting ****ty at her. Edited September 10, 2013 by AlexanderJames
Philosoraptor Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 She's planning her exit strategy and trying to grasp onto someone else so she either has the ability to move on, or so she doesn't have to be alone. She's really buttering you up well....don't allow yourself to be her rebound. 2
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Holy heck long time no see philo. You followed all my original posts ages ago! Do you think that's the case? Some extra info. In december she was split from him and we crossed paths at a music festival and started talking again. Like this weekends events you could say. We met up a few times and ended up sleeping together. This was when she called me unexpectedly and told me the stuff about thinking I was perfect. She asked to see me and I said I was out with friends (which I was). For some reason I didn't even click that she was asking to see me then and there. So I said id talk to her later. She got really upset at me and thought that I had used her for sex. I still can't explain why I didn't ditch my friends to go see her. Who knows where it could have lead. But I didn't go see her. She said I used her. And that was when she blocked me on fb and we didn't speak again from dec til last weekend. When I found out she had got back with him. Could she miss me maybe? One could say I was a rebound from their first split and she got mad at me as an act cause her rebound had blown her off? Hmmm. Something to think about I guess.
NoLeafClover Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I mean she is doing the right thing by her current in that she won't see me despite wanting to cause she doesn't want to be unfaithful. Which I respect. But I really just want to hang out cause she's fun to hang out with. We were friends before lovers or ex's. ..I call BS on that one there
barky2 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Ya bro, don't do it Be the bigger man and say listen hit me up when your single. Even after she breaks up with him, give her ATLEAST 2monts before you even think of meeting up with her. Trust me. Barky
forgetmenot75 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Yeah. she needs to clarify her situation before trying something with you. You don't want to be her second option, right? 1
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 I don't want to be a second option. I don't even think I want to be a first. I know he mistreats her and makes her unhappy. And she likes hanging out me with. I genuinely, at this stage, just want to hang out with her and have a laugh. Cause from what I hear from her and her best friends I met on the weekend who like me and hate him that she doesn't get to go out and have fun much. And when she does he starts a fight. Everyone deserves to be happy. But I'm weird like that. I'm the kind of guy to see a stranger in town on their own looking sad and stay with them to try and cheer them up. Cause everyone should be as happy as me haha. I'll see if she messages me again today. If she keeps threading needles I'll tell her to hit me up when she's single and we'll catch up.
Author AlexanderJames Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 Wrap up: She kept sending me messages so I said - you shouldn't be talking to me while you have a 'boyfriend', come find me when that changes. She replied from her bf's house with - You know I will. I didn't reply to it and the next day when I went on fb she had block me again haha. So that ends that
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