Dorota Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 My ex-boyfriend, who dumped me, has recently started talking to me again. He initiates all the conversations. However, he never really tries to continue the conversation. It's so weird. We were recently at an event together and he came up to me several times and said one or two things to me and then would walk away. Today he IM'ed me a couple times and every time I tried to continue the conversation he would just be silent. Also they've all been about very trivial subjects like the weather (yeah I know so cliche). I just don't understand why he feels the need to start conversations when it seems like he has no interest in really having a conversation with me.
melell Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I hate to say it but he is just making sure you are still there for when he wants you. Blank him next time, go nc. Another poster put this as 'pulling on the leash to make sure the dog is still there'. 1
BC1980 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 He's just keeping you around and trying to be on good terms in case he changes his mind. I just went though something similar with my ex that resulted in me requesting NC. 1
Author Dorota Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 We both decided to be friends because we are in the same social circle. However, I told him that it would take me time until I could truly be his friend and that we would have to take it slow. I know I don't want to get back together with him, but I'm also afraid that all this contact may stir up feelings again. Ever since we've had that first contact he's been starting conversations almost everyday. Does he think we can just suddenly be friends again? We've only been broken up for a few weeks. I don't know how he could just turn off his feelings and be okay talking to me so much. Or is it more he's trying to test the waters. For now I've decided to stay off all of social media so he's not tempted to contact me. Out of sight out of mind. 1
BC1980 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I wouldn't text back. Sounds like he's just doing this for his ego if there is nothing substantial to these conversations.
Author Dorota Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 So I just talked to a common friend. He said my ex said that he thought we were getting to an ok place. He appreciates the progress we've made with being able to talk to each other, but he's just not ready to talk about larger issues just yet. I just thought this was strange and don't really know what to think of it. I almost feel like he feels obligated to talk to me and be my friend. He was the one who originally said being able to talk eased the tension for him. Any thoughts??
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