Unfortunate Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 My girlfriend and I have been technically dating for about 1.5 years. The first go was great, we were doing new things together (since were each others first) and just were SO in love. I showered her with compliments, gifts, and anything I could. I really put her above me. We ended up breaking up (on her part) because I apparently was never honest? And because I always made her cry whenever something bothered me. She said that I channeled my anger against her, and made her cry. After that, with some smooth talking we ended up kissing in the mall and got back together, back after that, she told me that if I ever messed up again, she won't be willing to date me again...that pissed me off, because you're not gonna threaten me, so whatever Anyways, we broke up again because of some unknown reason. Legit, I don't know why. I did everything. I even took her out on her birthday for dinner and paid. I still treated her like gold. Recently I told her that I wanted to talk to her about us. She came and we talked and it basically came to this: I asked her if she could stop being awkward with me, because she had been acting weird whenever she's around me (were in the same program and classes at first year uni). Then after, she said that she was happier now that we aren't dating because she has nothing to cry about anymore. That honestly hurt me. Then eventually...she asked me if I liked this one girl because we hang out alot (she lives on my street and known her since grade 3) and I obviously dont. Then I kinda hesitated and asked her if she liked someone. When I told her, she smiled and scrunched her nose...and started to explain about her new crush. I was in total shock on the inside. The girl that I shared my love with has found a guy that probably only wants her for her looks. I acted like I didn't care and actually encouraged her to go for it, but she probably saw right through it. I know she knows I still care. I've been thinking about her with this other guy in bed and kissing and everything. The worst part is, is that we only had sex once (after a 1.5 year time interval....) and we did it outside, which was uncomfortable and I didn't really bang her either, I was so cold my mushroom tip couldn't get up tbh. I felt embarrassed, she gave me head and I gave her some, then we left. It wasn't that bad, but imagining her with a guy plowing her like never before will make her believe she's really in love with a guy who can give her this new insane feeling of pleasure and that's killing me. Anyways, we skype daily still, agreeing to be friends. She still acts really sweet around me, calls me cute and other nicknames, does these kissing emotions and always says that she wants to hug me etc. all that gooey ****. She just hung off skype and said that she was tired and going to sleep...but it's 9:50 pm...so I doubt that. I don't know if she went to talk to her new crush on skype instead or just hangout with her family (because she legit loves them more than anything, even more than me during our peak relationship, but thats family love, so I don't disagree with her choice). Do you guys still think there's a chance? If so, how can I go about it? NC is not an option, I sit with her in 3/5 classes.
Mariposa10 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Oh my god!! The pain when the person you love tells you they like or are interested in somebody else!!! I know how you must've felt. It's painful and sad, but there's nothing we can do about it. If I were you I'd keep my distance. Before you guys try anything (if you guys decide to) that crush has to go away....Don't think it doesn't get better, at first you have all those horrible thoughts of them together, but it they kind of go away at some point... Good luck.
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