Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I'd like to un-learn the following words: Sex addict Serial cheater Other woman Affair fog Betrayed spouse Wandering spouse True remorse False reconciliation Etc I'm going to rent Eternel Sunshine of the Spotless Mind from Redbox tonight and forget all of y'all Just kidding. 2
96nole Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 If you didn't know those words, you'd be susceptible to being with another serial cheater and not know the clues. And then you'll be going through this all over again. 1
Woggle Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 At least you aware now. It does suck when you come to realize what people are truly capable of and you feel your idealism just dying. 1
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 At least you aware now. It does suck when you come to realize what people are truly capable of and you feel your idealism just dying. Wog, there's gotta be a way to keep the idealism alive and well, parallel with the harsh light of reality. No?
compulsivedancer Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Wog, there's gotta be a way to keep the idealism alive and well, parallel with the harsh light of reality. No? Yeah, I feel like even Eternal Sunshine has something to say about the doomed to repeat thing. But I'm trying to be vague to avoid spoilers. Sidenote: Wonder how much this movie would cause triggers.
Furious Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I'd like to un-learn the following words: Sex addict Serial cheater Other woman Affair fog Betrayed spouse Wandering spouse True remorse False reconciliation Etc I'm going to rent Eternel Sunshine of the Spotless Mind from Redbox tonight and forget all of y'all Just kidding. BTT You've always lived in Kansas. It was your ex who lives in OZ, he's still there searching for a heart, a brain, and courage. Ok...you've been burned but do you want it to own you, to be forefront in your life. I volunteer at my local hospital. Being there with people who are ill and suffering brings a whole new perspective to the meaning of life and what Kansas really means. 2
Woggle Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Wog, there's gotta be a way to keep the idealism alive and well, parallel with the harsh light of reality. No? Every once in a while something pleasantly surprises me thought it doesn't happen often enough.
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 ...it might also take a witch. Sparkly shoes. Can NOT hurt 1
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 BTT You've always lived in Kansas. It was your ex who lives in OZ, he's still there searching for a heart, a brain, and courage. Ok...you've been burned but do you want it to own you, to be forefront in your life. I volunteer at my local hospital. Being there with people who are ill and suffering brings a whole new perspective to the meaning of life and what Kansas really means. I volunteer at a retirement home not 5 minutes from my house. I'm there all the time. I don't do anything medical because that stuff grosses me out but I visit with the residents who haven't had family visitors in years and years. A lot of them have Alzheimer's or some other kind of dementia and have no idea who I am. I tell lame jokes, play cards, pick on them, listen to their wacky stories, argue with them.... that's Kansas Oz can suck it 1
compulsivedancer Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Huh. I'm from Kansas, so it's weird hearing people talk about Kansas and use it as a metaphor for GOOD things.
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Huh. I'm from Kansas, so it's weird hearing people talk about Kansas and use it as a metaphor for GOOD things. Lol the heartland of America! I've never actually been there so I'm totally going by what I've seen in the Wizard of Oz. Incidentally... Of all the hurtful things imaginable, xbf invaded my "Kansas" by willingly going with me to visit my retirement home with me on a regular basis for about 2 years. He seemed to love it, and the residents loved him. He went on his own plenty of times without me after I got him involved. So me "falling" for him wasn't just some dumb girl crap. I still haven't explained to the staff there why we broke up. I'm not sure if he is still going there. I don't think he is. I'm not really sure what to do.
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Ughhhhh File the last post I made under things I DO NOT want to deal with And file it under repercussions WS doesn't ever think of... Errrrr........ How do I explain my horrifying breakup to the organization we both volunteer with? I was there first. I brought him in. They think he is a "great guy" and we are a "very happy couple" They do not know anything has changed. It's been summer, for all they know we have been busy with vacation, etc... There is no need to air my dirty laundry about town. Quit my volunteer job? So far I've been slackering.... aka avoiding, doing about 20% of what I'd normally do and been dodging people since June. Its a very closeknit, family oriented group. Practical advice, please.
todreaminblue Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Ughhhhh File the last post I made under things I DO NOT want to deal with And file it under repercussions WS doesn't ever think of... Errrrr........ How do I explain my horrifying breakup to the organization we both volunteer with? I was there first. I brought him in. They think he is a "great guy" and we are a "very happy couple" They do not know anything has changed. It's been summer, for all they know we have been busy with vacation, etc... There is no need to air my dirty laundry about town. Quit my volunteer job? So far I've been slackering.... aka avoiding, doing about 20% of what I'd normally do and been dodging people since June. Its a very closeknit, family oriented group. Practical advice, please. if you are uncomfortable now when he leaves probably more so you will still have to face the people you are avoiding......in any job where they are retrenching normally the first to go are the slackest and followed by the last employed..... if it were me i would leave, i would rather leave and be comfortable then find somewhere else to volunteer.......than stay and be uncomfortable and avoiding doing my share to avoid other people...it is up to you betterthanthis i wish you luck......deb
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