mammasita Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 How would you go about getting back together with an ex - when you are the dumper. Would you: 1) try to be friends and take it day by day and rebuild 2) have a talk lay it all on the table and move forward fom there
jackiedandy Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Personally, I would take it as if you were just acquainted, and see where it goes from there. Be friendly, not friends. As long as both parties are comfortable speaking to each other without any negative feelings, lay it all out on the table. Honesty is the best policy.
AllTooWell Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 If I was the dumper, I'd do a mix of both. I.e I would TELL them that I still have feelings for them, I want to reconnect, and I want to try again. I would ASK them how they feel about it. And then I would take it slow, and start fresh. You could suggest then being friends and taking it day by day, but tell them how you feel first. The thing is that at least in my experience, when a guy tries to be friends with me (even an ex) that puts a huuge red mark on them for me. I will assume they aren't interested in me and, especially in the case of an ex, I will work really hard to move on. Being friends with someone you still have feelings for or once loved is really difficult and could just create more drama.
StrongLass Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 How would you go about getting back together with an ex - when you are the dumper. Would you: 1) try to be friends and take it day by day and rebuild 2) have a talk lay it all on the table and move forward fom there It seems like it should be a combo of both. You should take it day by day and rebuild yet be really upfront about how things are progressing in the relationship with each other. And first and foremost as the dumper? BE ABSOLUTELY SURE RECONCILIATION IS WHAT YOU WANT. Seriously, don't waffle on that kind of sh*t. You've already hurt this person badly ONCE.
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