vibesn Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I am completely stuck and I need advice. I'm usually the one to give it, but I have no one that I can talk to. I specifically joined this forum to talk about this, so I'm sorry if it sounds more like a rant! I (20) live with my boyfriend (22) of two years in his mother's house. His mother and I get along wonderfully, she's an amazing woman. My boyfriend, however, has been pushing it. What made me open my mouth about the situation was that as I'm sitting here explaining this, I just got off of a website that my boyfriend had posted pictures of his penis and talking to some girl about it. The way I found out, though, was by snooping through his email. (Does that set me in the wrong at all? Please tell me if it does.) There are a few more issues that he and I have had, but I feel like we are very good at solving problems for the most part. There are many things that I love about my boyfriend, but a few of the things that have pushed me over the edge are his laziness, his video game addiction, and this weird obsession with girls online. The tricky part about living here is that I receive financial aid for college through claiming me on taxes. Like I said, she is extremely helpful and caring. My problem is that I cannot take living with my boyfriend anymore. We either need to cut it off, or at least take a break, he's obviously not ready for a commitment. Should I slowly start to distance myself and stick it out here until next May when I graduate? This would be the most financially suitable option for me. Or should I get out now before it's too late? I really don't have anywhere to go except for like an hour away from my college.
Philosoraptor Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 First, yes snooping is wrong and a sign of mistrust. But from the looks of it you have reasons not to trust him. His chatting and sending sexual pictures of himself to other women is a sign of future issues. This is a tricky one. Personally I'd say end the relationship and suck it up on the finances. While it would be benefitial to stay there, you'd be better off mentally and emotionally to move on sooner than later. Also, staying there with knowing you want to leave in the future would just be a lie and using both him and his mother. 1
MidwestUSA Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 How about his mother kicks him out and lets you stay? Win win, he will be forced to grow up. Seriously, he has no ambition, no life goals. You'll be better off without him. Stay in college, no matter what it takes. Can you manage to tolerate living there until you graduate? What is his mother's take on this? She's really putting herself out there by claiming you on her taxes and has a big stake (and risk) in this. She needs to show him some tough love. Penis pics. Ugh, really? Does she know he's doing this? Maybe she needs to know!
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