Klaatu17 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 It's been 2 months since the start of NC and I truly believe that I feel worse than I did at the beginning! I can't remember the last time I had a good nights sleep...I get about 3 hours sleep a night and although I was always a somewhat heavy drinker, I am now drinking day and night to try to deal with the anxiety. If I could afford therapy, I would definitely do it, but I've been unemployed for 2 years and funds are limited. I go for long walks, try to hang out with friends whenever I can and watch a lot of TV to try to distract me from thinking about her or walking by her place. The weird thing is, I've been through this dozens of times before, but for some reason, this one is really taking it's toll on me even though I only knew the woman about 3 weeks. I guess I just wanted it to turn in to something more than it was so badly... I just found this forum today so I'll read some of the posts and hopefully it will help. Thanks for reading... 1
Grumpybutfun Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 OP: Have you considered that you have situational depression? G 1
reddragon588 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 The AA phrase "Take it one day at a time" seems to apply here. Address the drinking first, the rest will come with it. Try staying sober for one full day. Take the victories as they come, no matter how small they seem. Once you have a full day without drinking, aim for two. After a few days of not drinking you will feel better, and believe it or not, sleep better too. 3
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 And, I can tell you there is something about the 2 month mark. It is a major hurdle so don't beat yourself up too bad. Take it day by day. Hour by hour if ya have to. Stay strong and you will make it. BTW - Congrats on 2 months. That's a victory in my book
almond Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Exercise and sunlight - plenty of both, every day. Will help with the anxiety, sleep and depression. Eating right is also super important. The alcohol will be making this a lot worse. Although the 12 step program isn't for everyone, perhaps hit up a local AA meeting and see if it may be of any benefit. Also, look into doing some volunteer work. It could benefit you (as well as others, obviously) in a number of ways. If this persists, please see your doctor. Alcoholism is serious. 1
loveiswar101 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Drinking side is not good, been there and it awful, but the way out is exercise and making yourself busy. Is there any chance of free counseling through a society, welfare etc. Had it here and helped me. Advise with drinking, I personally think it's hard to stop, I was buying carton at a time and boom gone in a day or two, then was advised to just buy a six pack, then just couple of beers. Not the best solution I know but helped me ween down to a manageable amount. Then exercise, hang out with mates.. 2
Author Klaatu17 Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 I just want to thank everyone for their suggestions and support. This truly is a great community!
almond Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Advise with drinking, I personally think it's hard to stop, I was buying carton at a time and boom gone in a day or two, then was advised to just buy a six pack, then just couple of beers. Not the best solution I know but helped me ween down to a manageable amount. It's actually one of the best solutions - anyone consuming significant amounts of alcohol daily should never stop suddenly. Ideally, you would taper off alcohol under medical supervision, but with a little research, you can sort out a taper schedule and sort it out yourself. Alcohol is a GABA drug, and the rebound effects after stopping are nasty. Alcohol withdrawals can be incredibly unpleasant, and in severe cases, fatal. 1
keepontruckin Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Klaatu, you have issues that need to be addressed before you should even consider entering a relationship, let alone wondering why they've failed "dozens" of times. You must address these issues, and the sooner the better, it seems... For you. You can live like you want, since I really don't care, but you should talk to a professional. There are agencies available, I'm sure, that could provide you with some guidance to address your issues at no cost... 1
reddragon588 Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 I just want to thank everyone for their suggestions and support. This truly is a great community! Of course! I've been there too after a failed relationship- and trust me when I say you must address the drinking first and foremost. I let my drinking break me after the breakup and it went on to affect my next relationship as well. Try an AA meeting- it's not a perfect system but it will help you get started. And, it's free!
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