penguin37 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 My boss told me last year that he had feelings for me. He was married at the time and told me that he planning on leaving his wife, and would leave her regardless of whether I wanted to be with him or not. I was also in a long term relationship at the time. However, my relationship with my partner was unhappy because he was abusive (I didn't tell my boss that I was unhappy). I told him that I didn't think it was appropriate to discuss it whilst he was married/I had a partner and that I didn't want to have an affair (I had feelings for him to but didn't tell him). My boss left his wife a couple of month's later. He told me again that he still had feelings for me and we kissed. Depsite being in an unhappy relationship I felt a lot of guilt and backed off from my boss after this. I eventually got the courage to leave my partner a couple of month's later. I told my boss that I had left my partner and that I had feelings for him too. He told me that he had feelings for me too but he had started dating a girl because he presumed that I was happy in my relationship and wasn't interested. He also told me that he was confused, wanted time to think and we kissed again. The break up with my partner was very distressing and my boss told me that he didn't want to add to my stress and thought we should be friends. It has been a couple of month's since I broke up with my partner. My boss told me that he was still seeing this girl but was finding it difficult because he still had strong feelings for me/was in love with me. He told me that he would break up with his girlfriend if I wanted to start a relationship. I told him that I was confused because I thought he had moved on and ended up we kissing. I have very strong feelings for my boss but I am now really confused. I don't understand why he chose the other girl over me or why he won't break up with her unless I say yes. I don't want to miss an opportunity of what could be a really good relationship but I also don't want to get hurt. Any advice would be great.
SoleMate Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 My advice is, DON'T have an affair with your boss. That is the WORST thing you can do as you put both your romantic happiness and employment stability in a single basket. You both may be "confused" now but it's 500% better than trying to live through a breakup and still have to work for the guy.....or worse yet, get fired (*) because his next GF is jealous of your role. (*) Such firing may or may not violate any laws.
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