legalgirl Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 While I thought I would be so sad and not able to breathe, my life feels normal again. No guessing, no wondering, no questioning what may happen or if he will leave his wife. I am already feeling whole again. I am sleeping all night. I am not constantly checking my phone to see if I will hear from him. I spent time with friends and even a guy friend this weekend. It felt really really good! 9 Link to post Share on other sites
Feb Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 While I thought I would be so sad and not able to breathe, my life feels normal again. No guessing, no wondering, no questioning what may happen or if he will leave his wife. I am already feeling whole again. I am sleeping all night. I am not constantly checking my phone to see if I will hear from him. I spent time with friends and even a guy friend this weekend. It felt really really good! Very happy to hear that, legalgirl! If your xAP reaches out, just remember that feeling you have now, and stay strong in NC. There will be some on this board that will say it will really "hit" you in the coming weeks/months, but I don't necessarily agree. Some are able to keep up with positive progress without backsliding in their healing process. The freedom aspect of NC is terrific -- sounds like you not only went physical NC, but mental NC as well, which is great news. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 While I thought I would be so sad and not able to breathe, my life feels normal again. No guessing, no wondering, no questioning what may happen or if he will leave his wife. I am already feeling whole again. I am sleeping all night. I am not constantly checking my phone to see if I will hear from him. I spent time with friends and even a guy friend this weekend. It felt really really good! Good job Legal! Doesn't it feel great to not be tied to your phone waiting for calls which always arrive on HIS time? It is great to reconnect with others. Refill your life...eventually there won't be room for someone who treats you like second prize. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Share Posted September 9, 2013 Congrats! Stay strong and yes you will do great! I found NC gave me time to breathe and get stronger. As said, you may have relapses/bad days, just hang in there when it happen, as tomorrow comes. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 While I thought I would be so sad and not able to breathe, my life feels normal again. No guessing, no wondering, no questioning what may happen or if he will leave his wife. I am already feeling whole again. I am sleeping all night. I am not constantly checking my phone to see if I will hear from him. I spent time with friends and even a guy friend this weekend. It felt really really good! Congrats! Embrace your good days and never look back! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
esperanzado Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 Great job!! I'm so envious (in a good way, of course)! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
maidai Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 While I thought I would be so sad and not able to breathe, my life feels normal again. No guessing, no wondering, no questioning what may happen or if he will leave his wife. I am already feeling whole again. I am sleeping all night. I am not constantly checking my phone to see if I will hear from him. I spent time with friends and even a guy friend this weekend. It felt really really good! You are doing everything right xx There will be bad days or something will not quite go right in your world and your heart will stop because that is the point you would usually run to them and tell them all that is happening and get comfort. Push it away though. Tell anyone else, come here type it out just hold firm on that no contact and you are already nearly there. At first I felt lost without my mobile going off every two minutes with a text but after around a week I started to enjoy the fact I could go out and leave the house and do things without having to be chained to it. The feeling of freedom alone that gives you is immense. I had lived my life a slave to my mobile. When I get texts now it irritates me 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JPMC Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 You know things are going right when you wake up in peace. That's when you know you're going in the right direction. Keep it up. Link to post Share on other sites
hollyhillcourt Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Legalgirl, I posted an update on my latest thread - thanks for your comment. I probably should have written more but I wanted to share with you this: I ordered a book on my Kindle for iPhone and started reading it this week, it's been really helpful in getting out of this mess and moving on. It's called 'Calling In "The One"' If you are ready, like I am, this might be helpful to you. It has an activity for everyday to help you move forward out of relationships with unavailable people into a relationship that is right and good. Check it out! Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author legalgirl Posted September 16, 2013 Author Share Posted September 16, 2013 Thank u! I will definitely check it out. Anything helps at this point! Link to post Share on other sites
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