Kd528 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 So a little back story, we had been together for 6 months and things moved extremely fast. We had spent every weekend together, planned a cruise together, met each others families, ect. Everything seemed to be going extremely well until we went out on a Sunday, had a silly fight- seemed to make up, then the next day he broke up with me stating that he was too immature for something so serious. I tried going NC with him and he reached out to my friends to see how things were going with me, which led me to message him, we agreed to talk and work on things, did that for a week and met up to talk face to face, at which point me said he still wasn't ready. Went another few weeks without talking and I was told about a job opportunity at work thats very appealing. My ex had tipsy pictures of us on facebook that would show up on a google search so I contacted him to please remove them so I wouldnt lose out soley based on that. It took him about 10 days to finally oblige, I had to go as far as telling him it was unfair to hold me back in my career while he figured himself out. The night that he finally did take them down he contacted me and tried arranging a hook up to which I said I couldn't do because I still had very strong feelings. Since then we spoke once more and I told him to give me to the 1st week of October so we can both get our heads together, I have the interview for the job in late sept and it would require a relocation so I don't want to stay in contact w him and keep hope, decline a job and still be back at square one. I still love him and he's the first thing I think of when I wake up, last thing I think of when I go to bed and at multiple points through out the day. At this point I wish I could either get over him or be with him like it was, I'm so heartbroken about the way things went. I had been with my ex before him for 7 years and engaged and the depth of feelings I experienced after this break up are so much more painful then when I broke up with my ex fiance. I'm 26 and my ex is 24
Philosoraptor Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 He told it how it is, and his actions say what he told you was the truth. You can either wait for him to grow up, or move on and find someone on your maturity level. Personally, I wouldn't hold my own future back based on a "chance" he may grow up at some point.
Author Kd528 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 I just don't understand the point of reaching out to my friends to find out about me and how I'm doing post relationship and he has also told me how he still cares and misses me, it just seems so illogical, especially since the breakup came completely out of left field
Philosoraptor Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 It's hard to go cold turkey with someone, it just is. He may have been really concerned or he may have been reaching out to see if you've been 'pining' over him to stroke his own ego. Either way, he ended it and continues with his immaturity and wants to use you as a hook up buddy. 1
Author Kd528 Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 At the time of our breakup I was going through some serious medical stuff(potential cancer) and was pretty cranky bc of the stress. He just reached out to me to ask what's going on medically and I told him forunately that waa not the case and I apologized for the way I had reacted toward the end. He said I was very unlike the person he knew and so he sort of freaked but he then said he wouldnt rule out a future but just needs more time. Does this sound like a method to keep me on the back burner? If so how could you use someones health to do that
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