kayjay85 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I keep trying to convince myself im now over my ex hopefully this will be my last post although i think im just trying to get answers i want to hear. So a quick brief of whats happened. 4 year relationship very good strong no arguments just a lot of good times travelling the world meeting new people. became severly depressed about my health and ended up loosing my job. got addicted to pain killers that i was taking because of a back/leg problem and just started to lie about everything. I used the money in our joint account to pay bills but told my boyfriend it was for other things he still thought i was working. One day i had enough and left him a letter telling him everything that was going on and left. To be very honest i was very embarrased not about loosing my job or anything but mainly about depression i just thought it was such a bad thing. So weve been split up 11 weeks now and in that time we have cried talked had sex gone NC broke NC. We agreed while we were both single we could still hang out and have sex. Yes BAD IDEA i know. he went out on a date with a girl but told me she was just a friend who had also just broke up with someone and it was nothing. Now lets talk about this week. We had still been meeting up talking every night on the phone arranged to go out on friday but on thursday i called and he said he couldnt he was going to see his sister in another city lets make it for another day. So friday i messaged him have a safe drive he said he hadnt gone he was going the next day which he did. But i came to find out he was out with the girl he had already taken out before. All that night he was messaging me but was out with her. I confronted him the next day but he didnt want to answer untill eventually he admitted to seeing us both. said he was going to tell me. I messaged the girl and told her as i was so angry. So my question is will this relationship last? i know some rebounds last but what about one that starts with a lie in just one week. He has also made her quit her job in a bar where she works as a host because he can be quite jealous.I know he will move on but i dont want it to last with them because of the way there relationship started. Any advice weather i want to hear it or not will be good for me x
Viro12 Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 If you keep pushing it, YES IT WILL LAST. He's having the best of the both worlds sex and dating from two girls. You need to go strict NC and move on with your life now! 1
loveandstuff Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 It seems like you are just asking to get the answer "no, it won't work". Be very honest with yourself, do you really care about their relationship because you care about her and him, or do you only care because you want him back? As difficult as it's going to be, you need to move on! I know it's easier said than done, but it's in your best interest to just let this guy go. If he wants to be with her, let him. Don't give him anything on the side, either. He doesn't deserve it! You are just digging yourself into a deeper and deeper whole and not allowing yourself to heal properly.
Author kayjay85 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 i feel like i did push them together the way i acted. I am trying to get over it but breaking no contact didnt help. He is just not the person i know at all but i suppose he could say the same about me after what i done. Im going to leave them alone and get on with it. trying my hardest not to keep checking there twitter pages because it just keeps hurting me.
Author kayjay85 Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 i know it is im just angry and bitter that it happened all over again. When apart of me thought we would get back together. I know its no ones fault except my own.
Author kayjay85 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 Ok so im finally getting there. It was a kick in the teeth to see pics on face book of my ex kissing his girlfriend of 2 weeks. But that was the nail in the coffin hes moved on i get it. Untill i get a message on whatsapp yesterday to say hes happy for me that my business is going well. How did he know? well that was my whatsapp status. Well it floored me. he blocked me from twitter unfriended me on facebook and all along he has had me on whatsapp. i replied with thanks and that was all. My question is now do i block him on whatsapp. not because he blocked me on twitter and facebook but because i dont really want him knowing what im doing and messaging me when he feels like. now im wondering who else from his family have me on whatsapp.
RiceaRoni Posted September 18, 2013 Posted September 18, 2013 Alrighty hun this is what you gotta do! Say bye bye to all social networks for now. That means deactivate, block the website, delete the apps on your phone. Temporarily of course. But you NEED to stay away, trust me this is what I had to do in order to get over an ex I was with for a long time. And I mean ALL social networks, and you know what? Life felt so much better without them. Second. You need to stop contacting him. Stop having any relation with him whatsoever. Delete his number, ignore his texts (if he texts you), get a new number or block his. He's toxic to you right now and it does you no help to keep talking to him and engaging with him in any way. Third. Who cares! Who cares if the relarionship with the woman he ran off with lasts or not. It does you absolutely no help at all. None. Zip. Nada. You gotta forget her and forget him. Bye bye. Peace. Duces. He made her quit her job? Because he's jealous? Wtf. That's some crazy stuff and he himself isn't healthy. He isn't healthy for you and apparently not healthy for her. You just gotta keep your mind and yourself busy dear. Without him. Go out and have some fun with friends. It'll do you wonders. Go to a gym, watch a funny movie, take a class, talk to a counselor, talk on here! Just don't have anything to do with him anymore. Go cold Turkey all the way.
Author kayjay85 Posted September 18, 2013 Author Posted September 18, 2013 i deleted my social network sites im done with them. I just wasnt sure what to do. i was thinking about getting a new number because i would wonder when he was going to call. then i realised he wasnt coming back and got on with it. then this message. i just dont understand im sick of being in limbo will he wont he. im thinking i need a new number as ive deleted all his family out my phone but obviously that doesnt stop them seeing what im up to.
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