reckoned Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Nobody knows of his existence in my life. Our correspondence gets deleted after reading. I am unwelcome in his home; I won't be invited to his funeral; we will deny having ever been physically close; if we see each other on the street, we will be cordial at best. There is no evidence to suggest that we were ever good friends. And yet, in my mind and heart, we were? These feelings inside me are so incongruous, so jarring, so incompatible with the outside reality, I can't keep a healthy headspace. I can't sustain this. Really not coping. We can't be friends. In fact, we never were. I have as much claim over him as a stranger. Please don't insult me by calling me your friend. I am hurting.
KentuckyGent Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 We OM/OW have all been in your shoes. It isn't easy. In most ways, the MP gets off very easy compared to us. We're left holding the bag, usually alone while they many times go back to their comfortable little lives none the worse for wear if they didn't get caught.
yellowmaverick Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Reckoned - I am sorry that you are hurting, but you sound as if you are on your way to healing. Opening up your eyes to your reality was the first step. You can use this hurtful experience to make better choices in the future and find a wonderful man who would be honored to walk down the street, arm-in-arm with you, in full public view. And, no, you can't be friends if you want to heal and move on.
legalgirl Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 I am so sorry! I remember the feeling. Everyone knew about him but no one knew about me. You deserve more and you will find it. Stay strong. I am 3 days NC and I can actually say it feels really good. No waiting, wondering, no gut wrenching feelings. I am sleeping all night again!!! It is an amazing feeling. 1
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